Hi, I really need some advice. My son has just turned 2 and is a wonderful, but VERY demanding boy. I really want him to lose the dummy. He has always used a dummy for sleeping and sometimes when he got whingy during the day. I also let him have it in the car as I have a long drive to work on a busy highway with him, and it is just too distracting and dangerous if he is throwing a tantrum all the way. Lately he has gotten so much more attached to it and is obsessed with it. He goes absolutely nuts if he doesn't have it and won't calm down. I am terribly sick with morning sickness which is making me a bit depressed so I've just given in and let him have it because I can't handle the all day long tantrum if I don't.
I've tried cutting the end off in bits or poking holes in it. He just sucks it anyway, and if I cut it too short, it's tantrums again.
He is bilingual, so his language skills are spread over two languages. He doesn't know enough in one language to be able to reason with. He wouldn't understand the concept or explanation of 'losing it', 'fairies coming to take it', or 'giving it to babies who need it' etc.
I do kind of feel sorry for him even when he's throwing tantrums about it because he is just so incredibly upset.
Does anyone have ANY advice - if I just make him quit it cold turkey, how long can I expect the tantrums to last? I am also worried about the lack of sleep if I did this as I am so sick, have to work, and sleeplessness is the LAST thing I need.