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    headoverfeet is offline The truth will set you free, but first it will **** you off. -Gloria Steinem
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    Default If you had a daughter and she was going out to a party...

    where there were guys drinking would you let her go out looking like a $|^+?

    I've wanted to post this question since the DADD thread, note it's not a question I came up with, something I've seen on FB..
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thermolicious View Post
    where there were guys drinking would you let her go out looking like a $|^+?

    I've wanted to post this question since the DADD thread, note it's not a question I came up with, something I've seen on FB..
    I love it! Saw it on FB a lil while ago

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    First time I've seen it. I think its very well put. If only everyone could/would understand.

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    That is fantastic!

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    As a mum of a now adult dd, there is now way I would allow/allowed my teen dd to leave the house like a Sl*t anytime no matter where she was going. We taught her to dress in a manner that wasn't Sl*ty. We taught her to respect herself. To have pride in herself.

    Now of course we have no say in what she wears as a adult. She still choose to dress in a respectful way.

    I have two pre teen dd and we already teaching them to have pride and respect themselves.




    Edited to add we are teaching our sons that no matter what a girl wears/ how drunk she is that he can NOT touch her in any way unless she consents. And that being drunk means she can't consent. We are teaching them to respect not only the girls but themselves.


    In No way am I saying that how you dress ever gives a man the right to do anything to you.
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    I agree with that loving6!

    I'm teaching DD she is worth more than her appearance

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    I can't read the attachment text on my phone, what does it say?

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    The problem with that is that it's not women that dress like sl*ts that get raped. Women wearing track suits get raped Women wearing ankle length skirts and polo necks get raped. Women wearing jeans get raped. Women wearing hijabs get raped.

    The problem with this sl*t shaming culture is that it excuses the rapist - as much as everyone says the victim isn't to blame, it's in the cultural conciousness that 'good girls' don't get raped. So if you were raped, you were bad, right? You must have done something. You must have worn something wrong or said something. You must have been out too late. You must have talked to him in the wrong way. You must have made him want to.

    It's a line of thought that simply needs to end.

    Rapists rape. Regardless of what the victim does, wears or says.

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    I saw the thread title and came in ready to have a rant about victim blaming and expecting to be shouted down. What a pleasant surprise to read the OP in full

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    Quote Originally Posted by Speedy View Post
    The problem with that is that it's not women that dress like sl*ts that get raped. Women wearing track suits get raped Women wearing ankle length skirts and polo necks get raped. Women wearing jeans get raped. Women wearing hijabs get raped.

    The problem with this sl*t shaming culture is that it excuses the rapist - as much as everyone says the victim isn't to blame, it's in the cultural conciousness that 'good girls' don't get raped. So if you were raped, you were bad, right? You must have done something. You must have worn something wrong or said something. You must have been out too late. You must have talked to him in the wrong way. You must have made him want to.

    It's a line of thought that simply needs to end.

    Rapists rape. Regardless of what the victim does, wears or says.
    I agree that Rapist rape because they choose too.


    I have never taught my dd's that good girls don't get raped or that if you were raped that you where bad. That is just crazy thinking.

    I have talked them about my experience and that i was wearing my school sports uniform at the time.


 

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