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    ButterflyMa, I'm glad everything is ok with bub! SO happy for you, nothing sucks more than having a scare like that. xx

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    Thanks for sharing Lorin.

    My feelings of finding out the sex were a bit different. I felt I needed to know to help me bond with baby and also help get me more excited rather than just anxious all the time. I also felt I needed to know as much as possible about the baby in case it was taken from us again. I felt really desperate for another girl. I know another girl wouldn't be Clementine but I felt it would be a tiny glimpse into what she may have been like. I also have a fear that we'll never have a girl that gets to stay with us and that I will never see what a daughter of ours would have been like.

    I was pretty convinced we were having a girl, so much so that when the OB at our 16 week anatomy scan on Friday told us it was a boy I went into a little shock and got really quiet. I had a cry when we left and it took me a couple days to wrap my head around it. I am excited for a boy and so grateful he is healthy and doing well but I have this weird mix of excitement for a boy and sadness/fear of never having a girl. I know we'll hopefully try for another baby in a couple years and maybe we'll get another baby girl then, but I still have this fear that we'll never have a baby girl we get to cuddle alive and watch grow.

    I saw the little Mr again today at my OB appt and he is definitely still a boy! And very cheekily playing with his umbilical cord! I'm not too keen on that but the OB said he'll drop it if he squeezes it because he'll quickly not feel great, he said he's seen it happen on a scan before. I'd prefer that he just leave it alone!

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    Well Kirst33 like you we've just found out we're having a boy - and it's rocked me... I really didn't think it would this much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ButterflyMa View Post
    Well Kirst33 like you we've just found out we're having a boy - and it's rocked me... I really didn't think it would this much.
    I think I know how you're feeling. Don't feel guilty about it, just go with the feelings and let yourself feel them and I promise they slowly start to subside and you get more and more excited about the little mister inside. How are you doing? Talking about it all helps gets all the emotions of not having another baby girl out of your system. Xoxo

    ETA: my MIL made a good point when I told her how I was feeling. She thought it was maybe a blessing that this one is a boy, to allow me to heal a bit more so that when we do hopefully have another girl I won't compare her to Clementine so much.
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    That's EXACTLY what my mother said

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    Its still hard its bewn 7 yrs and what I live buy is you will never forget and he or she will always hold a special place in your heart every year I always light a special candle and let a balloon go in a special spot it helps

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    Oh just looking for a hug - I have 2 SIL, both were pregnant. One had a little girl a few days ago and the other is having a little girl in November. We were all pregnant at the same time at one stage but my little girl died... I so want to be happy. And I was when I heard she was born but today we're heading in for a visit and I'm not sure if I can. I can't stop crying... I never saw my lil girl alive and this will be my first time since that I've held a baby girl.
    I'm now carrying a lil boy and I'm sure I'll love him when we get to meet him...
    I'm not even sure what I'm on about now - so done with feeling feelings!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ButterflyMa View Post
    Oh just looking for a hug - I have 2 SIL, both were pregnant. One had a little girl a few days ago and the other is having a little girl in November. We were all pregnant at the same time at one stage but my little girl died... I so want to be happy. And I was when I heard she was born but today we're heading in for a visit and I'm not sure if I can. I can't stop crying... I never saw my lil girl alive and this will be my first time since that I've held a baby girl.
    I'm now carrying a lil boy and I'm sure I'll love him when we get to meet him...
    I'm not even sure what I'm on about now - so done with feeling feelings!!!
    I'm really sorry if I'm intruding (please know I'm not meaning to be rude by butting in and ignore my post if you find me posting here offensive) but I couldn't read this and not offer you some hugs. go easy, don't rush yourself. Your SIL's baby will still be there when you feel the time is right to meet her and say hello. I'm sure your SIL understands.

    Much love to you today xx

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    Ah thanks for the hugs I've had my melt down and feeling a whole lot better about the whole thing xox We're going to visit tomorrow instead and let us both collect ourselves - even DP had a bit of a cry when he got off the phone to her. They were talking about her birth experience and she was saying how wonderful it was; it brought it all back for him. But we had a good talk and reminisced about the birth of our baby... It was nice to hear him talk about it.


 

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