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    Default I hate making decisions!! vent

    There are so many things I am confused about at the moment and I really wish google or bubhub or a magic 8 ball could just tell me the answers lol.

    I have gone over the pros and cons of 3 major issues and I still can't choose what to do! So this is just a vent. I wish I could write these 3 things into google and have it tell me the right answer lol!

    "Should we move houses"

    "Should I have another c-section or have a vaginal birth despite risks"

    "Should DH take a year off work next year so that I can have my surgeries, or should he keep working and we have our 4th baby (close to this 3rd one) and put off surgery until who knows when..."

    I just need to know either way the right choice for each of those questions and I can't seem to choose anything!!

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    Not much help but with the vbac I would recommend going to a course about them. I did and It was the best thing. I don't know how many C's u have had but normally it's no more riskier that another C. Imo

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    Quote Originally Posted by tjewell View Post
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    Not much help but with the vbac I would recommend going to a course about them. I did and It was the best thing. I don't know how many C's u have had but normally it's no more riskier that another C. Imo
    Thanks The risks aren't about the v-bac, they are more about why I had a c-section in the first place, which is more what I am scared about. I have severe prolapse of everything down there needing surgery after I finish having children. I have been told that a c-section is the only safe way to avoid complete rectal incontinence, however I have also been told that it doesn't matter. I had a c-section last time because the only way to avoid more damage in labour was to have an active birth and spd made me unable to do that in my first vaginal birth. So I don't know what to do I have an ob telling me to do what I want to do, and he thinks I can have a vaginal birth, but I also have the expert on prolapse (uro-gyny) telling me to have a c-sect again or risk surgery repair not going as well. My c-section was perfect, but I just can't stop thinking about how much more perfect a perfect birth would be, you know?

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    Okay, my magic 8 ball says:

    Ask again later
    Yes
    Without a doubt.

    Which is a better outcome than I usually get. It always non committal with me. No matter how many times I 'ask again later' its never helpful.

    Seriously, some decisions are so hard. I find physically writing everything out (on paper) can sometimes help make it clearer in my head. Good luck.

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    I hate decisions too.

    Would it help to picture where you want to be in say 2 years or 5 years and work back from there to see how is best to get there?

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    I am terrible at making decisions too, i over think everything. Even the simplest of decision can be a huge dilemma in my head, i hate it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MothersMilk View Post
    I am terrible at making decisions too, i over think everything. Even the simplest of decision can be a huge dilemma in my head, i hate it.
    This is me, I over think everything!

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    Yep I over think things too!

    Nacy, working backwards from 2 years would be helpful, thats a very good idea for #3. For #1 and #2 I have to weigh up the pros and cons asap before I give birth lol! I have written them all out on paper (dh teases me for my lists) but as much as a rationalise each choice, one never comes out over the other. DH has also left choices 1 and 2 completely up to me and it just makes me more frustrated to talk to him about it! Maybe I will make an actual thread some day soon with my pros and cons listed for questions 1 & 2. Hopefully someone will say something that magically shines a light on which way to go haha.

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    Don't move house! It's hellish.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SPC View Post
    Don't move house! It's hellish.
    shoosh you! I have been avoiding your moving statuses for a reason! lol


 

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