DS is 4 in June. I work at the daycare he goes to a couple of times a week and I got called in to speak to the director today. She used to work with special needs children and was also his teacher last year so knows him well.
She said that she is concerned with his behaviour and how he might deal with prep next year. We've always thought he was a bit "full on" as in he doesn't stop, lots of full on tantrums, very defiant when he wants to be, I can simply not get him to do something if he doesn't want to or can't take him out without difficulty. But he is also very affectionate and loving, very sweet and very smart when he is interested. The director's thoughts were that he might be mildly autistic (although she said she is not a doctor and doesn't want to label him). She has seen signs since she met him as in a speech delay and unusual attachment to his dummy (which he easily got rid of when he was ready). He just gets up in group time to do his own thing, has a short attention span, has some issues socially he is off in his own world sometimes and doesn't always want to participate and she is concerned as to how he will go in a mainstream school next year. We are wanting him to go to Steiner anyway which she agreed would be great for him.
I guess I want to view other's thoughts? She is recommending me a paed to go and see. I'm scared as I'm not sure what the process is? Part of me thinks it might be good to get some advice on how to deal with his behaviour as I feel we can't discipline him as if he has his mind set on something theres no changing it, the other part of me thinks I dont want to label him and go through lots of testing if he is fine and just spirited or strong willed.
I appreciated talking to her but am now a bit scared as I'm not sure what to do... Thoughts please?