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    Default *spin off* What surgical procedures would you agree to for your child?

    I have an 8yo and last year we were faced with a tough decision. Her blood test for coeliac disease came back positive so the next step was to a) agree to a biopsy and let her decide later in life to get a proper diagnosis, or b) forget the formal diagnosis and just put her on a gluten free diet.

    After a lot of tears and talks and anxiety, dd and I (with support of her paed) decided to go ahead with it because that way we would know for sure. I'm glad my child was involved in the discussions and decisions, but surgery is never easy for me to think about.

    Now we are faced with it again. This time with her teeth. She has 2 extra teeth, one on each.side at the top that need to come out. We have a bit over a month to see if they come out on their own. Because of her ASD, it needs to be done under GA at the local hospital. Again, difficult, but doing this now will make it less likely that other teeth come through crooked. Once again, dd was part of every discussion.

    The first one was particularly difficult for me because it was not as necessary as the next one. I still question whether it was the right move or not, especially with new info saying how unnecessary and ******** it is when the blood test is enough.

    So the question is, what are you comfortable with as far as surgical procedures go?

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    Or anything medical/cosmetic really.

    I said no to ear piercing until dd was turning 8 and I felt she was old enough to make the choice. Any other piercings, including a second set of earrings, will happen over 18.

    I also have not agreed to take dd for another blood test to measure if we have stuck to the gluten free diet well enough. I have seen how trace amounts affect her, which leaves me satisfied thatwe are doing it right.

    Vaccinations, she was delayed, and there I some I don't agree with for her.

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    Nothing cosmetic at the moment (all my children are under 8) and anything medical that we/I/professionals felt was beneficial or necessary.

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    She's had her tonsils/adenoids removed. She never had endless tonsillitis or anything, but snored a lot and we were worried about sleep apnoea and the quality of her sleep. It's improved since - no snoring, and I think she sleeps better too. No more bags under her eyes every single day.

    I would probably consider any surgery that was suggested to me to fix a real problem. Not a problem like a "crooked nose," or something unless it caused breathing problems or something though. I don't see any need for cosmetic (unless corrective or reconstructive) on a child.

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    we are actually considering "crooked nose" surgery (lol sassy mummy) for dd (11) as it does stop her breathing properly, which impacts on her voice, her fitness, and has caused teeth and mouth problems leading to braces. But i don't know whether the doctors will do it this young or not. it is a tough call when it is not strictly medically necessary.
    we did agree to a GA for another child for a minor procedure which was medically necessary.

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    DD2 had open heart surgery at 9 days of age.

    If we had waited until she was 2 years old, they could've done a less invasive procedure. But the specialist advised not waiting since the right side of her heart was "thickening already". We basically took the experts reccomendations on it.

    DD1 had an infected lymph node removed just prior to 2yo. That one I felt really bad about because before the procedure we were told that it was only being drained, then afterwards that they took the whole thing out. I never did get told exactly why, and she has a nasty scar on her neck.

    She was telling me that she's sick of explaining it to people, so last time someone asked her, she said she had been mugged and had her throat cut.

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    If braces are recommended in coming years and my kids want them I'll definitely get them- getting braces was the best thing I ever did! Other cosmetic surgery- no, unless it's a result of some sort of horrific injury/other surgery. To look 'normal' again. Not sure what I would do if my child was born with really bad sticky out ears or something, I'd have to research I guess. Cleft palate or harelip or whatnot I'd prob agree to surgery, would def agree to anything necessary to save their life/quality of life.

    Although at age 3 it was recommended DD1 get grommets but it didn't feel right so we didn't.

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    I would agree to anthing medically nessasary. And in her tweens etc if there was something bothering her she wanted fixed eg. Ears pinned back, moles removed i would prob agree.

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    LOL Sweetseven! My bestie's little bro was born at 26 weeks and had more surgeries than his parents can even remember. He has scars on his chest, back and stomach and told some Missionaries from America that he took on a crocodile. When they looked stunned he told them he made 3 handbags and a pair of shoes out of the 1 croc. I guess people would get tired of being asked.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Annabella View Post
    If braces are recommended in coming years and my kids want them I'll definitely get them- getting braces was the best thing I ever did! Other cosmetic surgery- no, unless it's a result of some sort of horrific injury/other surgery. To look 'normal' again. Not sure what I would do if my child was born with really bad sticky out ears or something, I'd have to research I guess. Cleft palate or hair lip or whatnot I'd prob agree to surgery, would def agree to anything necessary to save their life/quality of life.

    Although at age 3 it was recommended DD1 get grommets but it didn't feel right so we didn't.
    I wish my parents had made me get braces! I was told I should get them when I was 14 and I just refused ( i thought they looked bad ) so they just let it go, I've had trouble with my teeth for the last 20 years , DH had braces at 15 and he has beautiful teeth , that's one thing I will insist if DS needs them as it will definitely lead to problems later on


 

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