View Poll Results: Who do you tell about your gifted child's achievements?

Voters
21. You may not vote on this poll
  • Immediate family only (childs parents/siblings)

    7 33.33%
  • Extended family only (childs grandparents/aunts/uncles)

    5 23.81%
  • Family & a few friends

    4 19.05%
  • Anyone who is in my childs life

    6 28.57%
  • Other

    3 14.29%
Multiple Choice Poll.
+ Reply to Thread
Page 2 of 5 FirstFirst 1234 ... LastLast
Results 11 to 20 of 41
  1. #11
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    Sautéed with bacon
    Posts
    6,070
    Thanks
    271
    Thanked
    2,695
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by daysta112 View Post
    To all of you, scream it from the roof tops, not saying something continues the stigma around it
    You're so right. Just hard to find the right way to do it. I know most people will genuinely be happy for him and say "well of course he got chosen!"

  2. #12
    Join Date
    Sep 2011
    Posts
    3,307
    Thanks
    46
    Thanked
    985
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by daysta112 View Post
    To all of you, scream it from the roof tops, not saying something continues the stigma around it
    This!!!

  3. #13
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Location
    northern nsw
    Posts
    218
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    45
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by OJandMe View Post
    I don't think I have a 'gifted' child... however I do let others know that Julian put together a 100 piece puzzle, by himself, which he'd never seen before, without even a picture to guide him and it only took him about 7 minutes...

    He's 3.5yrs old

    And now I've just told all of you
    That's amazing!!

  4. #14
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Posts
    3,678
    Thanks
    788
    Thanked
    1,847
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    we have really struggled with this...i talk to my sister and my mum..and 1 of my close friends...other than that, i play it down.

    DS was bullied severely in prep and year 1...he came home in tears often.

    One of my sadest moments was when he came home half way through prep saying he was going to pretend he couldn't read/do maths from then on because the other kids were calling him names and refusing to play with him. He was also hit/kicked/choked in the playground. There were MANY meetings at school...the most memorable was when i was sat down by the head teacher and told that he didn't fit in because he was different and would most likely not fit in with the other kids until at least year 5/6.

    ANYWAY...change of head teacher so i gave it another year...his teacher last year was fab. Gave him loads of work that challenged him, projects to for him to do at home that he got to hand in and then take to the head for some praise, she kept an ultra close eye on him and stamped out most of the bullying.

    This year...we went backwards again even though the school launched a "gifted and talented program". The class teacher just did not get DS...even though he finished year 2 maths in year 1 and was working on year 3 work, she made him start again. She wanted him to go back to level 18 readers when he was at level 40...she told him he had to prove himself and that his writing was too messy (he has poor fine motor skills) to be good at English.

    Anyway...the gifted an talented program was pretty rubbish, less than his year 1 teacher did with him. The did have extension club 1 afternoon after school and this was his highlight. The teacher of that group was so excited by what he could do...so i loved taking to her about him.

    So...all of this...and i am still trying to answer the question lol

    I have pulled him out of school and found a school dedicated to gifted and talented Education. Excitingly, it's a public school so i am saving thousands in school fees! Their programs are amazing and have a proven track record of delivering...and they have a support group for parents of g&t kids...they know how hard it is!

    He will be homeschooled for 6 months as they cannot take him till next year and this has led me to talk more about what he can do (because everyone wants toknow why he is being homeschooled) and I am doing OK with it. I cannot wait to see how much we can do when we are home together...he always learns rapidly in the school holidays so i am not setting any limits on what we do and will just take him as far as he wants to go.

  5. #15
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    6,213
    Thanks
    387
    Thanked
    594
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    smileygirl ... I didn't realise there were any public primary schools that specialise in gifted kids. Sounds great. His experience at his current school sounds dreadful though to you & him. There are community support groups for parents of kids with g&t kids, sounds like you might benefit from that. Go to www.giftedresources.org and they usually have info in their newsletter about support groups available.

  6. #16
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Posts
    6,372
    Thanks
    422
    Thanked
    1,168
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    can I just pop in and say something? dont hate on me..
    I think its really sad if a school or family cant acknowledge academic acheivements.. yes.. Never noticed that before. My schools always gave awards for high acheivers of all sorts and had the accelerated classes.
    however.. sorry.. but it seems like lately every second person thinks their two year old is gifted iykwim. how do people decide their child is gifted?
    I dont doubt that some children are "ahead".. I was always ahead as a child in everything.. and then around highschool my peers caught up..
    ALSO.. sometimes people who have gifted children IQ wise.. seem to fail to realise their children are emotionally/socially quite delayed or lack confidence and those types of skills.. which are also really important.
    my sons school gives awards for doing well in class, being kind to friends, sports, being helpful in the community..
    I was always taught that bragging of any kind only serves your own ego and I think thats sticks me.

  7. #17
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Posts
    495
    Thanks
    106
    Thanked
    127
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by bumMum View Post
    can I just pop in and say something? dont hate on me..
    I think its really sad if a school or family cant acknowledge academic acheivements.. yes.. Never noticed that before. My schools always gave awards for high acheivers of all sorts and had the accelerated classes.
    however.. sorry.. but it seems like lately every second person thinks their two year old is gifted iykwim. how do people decide their child is gifted?
    I dont doubt that some children are "ahead".. I was always ahead as a child in everything.. and then around highschool my peers caught up..
    ALSO.. sometimes people who have gifted children IQ wise.. seem to fail to realise their children are emotionally/socially quite delayed or lack confidence and those types of skills.. which are also really important.
    my sons school gives awards for doing well in class, being kind to friends, sports, being helpful in the community..
    I was always taught that bragging of any kind only serves your own ego and I think thats sticks me.
    At a glance from an outsider looking in, this ^^ would seem to be why people are hesitant about talking about their gifted children.. :-(

  8. #18
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Posts
    5,276
    Thanks
    3,697
    Thanked
    3,090
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by bumMum View Post
    can I just pop in and say something? dont hate on me..
    I think its really sad if a school or family cant acknowledge academic acheivements.. yes.. Never noticed that before. My schools always gave awards for high acheivers of all sorts and had the accelerated classes.
    however.. sorry.. but it seems like lately every second person thinks their two year old is gifted iykwim. how do people decide their child is gifted?
    I dont doubt that some children are "ahead".. I was always ahead as a child in everything.. and then around highschool my peers caught up..
    ALSO.. sometimes people who have gifted children IQ wise.. seem to fail to realise their children are emotionally/socially quite delayed or lack confidence and those types of skills.. which are also really important.
    my sons school gives awards for doing well in class, being kind to friends, sports, being helpful in the community..
    I was always taught that bragging of any kind only serves your own ego and I think thats sticks me.
    I think that to be called gifted there are specific assessments that have to made. I don't think you can just decide it yourself.

    I also think those scenarios you mention are true. BUT I don't think that was really the point of the thread. My understanding was that it was about parents of gifted children feeling that they can't tell anyone about their child's achievements, as people immediately sneer at them/ shoot them down. Whereas if those achievements were sporting ones (for example) then everyone would be cheering them on. It's the old thing of it not being 'cool' to be clever.

    And I guess you could probably call it bragging if a parent wants to talk about something great their kid has done. However, don't we all do this? I'm not talking about oneupmanship - I just mean excitedly sharing something because you're proud of someone. I think it's sad if people can't do this because others are jealous/ critical/ mean spirited.

    DD is only 2, so I'm definitely not announcing her as a gifted child. However, she has been ahead of her peers in a number of areas. She can read some words, she can spell a few, she talks in sentences, and she's had a huge vocabulary from just over 12mths on. And I do the worst thing ever. I'm so desperate to not be seen as one of "THOSE" mums that I not only don't mention it when she does something new (apart from to my mum and dad or DH), but when other people bring up how well she talks, or something like that, I play it down and then start talking about some problem I've had with her (which mostly is exaggerated/ not really accurate), just to make her sound normal, and to make the other person feel better.

    Then I feel guilty for having let her down by doing that.

  9. #19
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Posts
    6,372
    Thanks
    422
    Thanked
    1,168
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by 2girls1boyplus1 View Post
    At a glance from an outsider looking in, this ^^ would seem to be why people are hesitant about talking about their gifted children.. :-(
    I totally agree. I think there is a definite difference between sharing and bragging.. and I do think some people can be mean spirited and jealous.. and yes.. unfortunately being clever is not as "cool" as it should be..
    Perhaps these people who are a bit insensitive have also encountered too much competitiveness amongst parents though.
    it certainly does exist in sports and bragging about your childs sporting abilities does grate on the nerves of other parents too... my dad was an absolute nightmare for this.. He took "pride" in his son to an extreme place.
    Anyway.. didnt mean to derail. I think people should be able to share their excitement about their child being clever. I just think that some people do take sharing to the extreme and are blind to the fact that to others it can be irritating too..

  10. #20
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Posts
    914
    Thanks
    19
    Thanked
    194
    Reviews
    4
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    My child is far from gifted. He's quite behind with most things, but socially he is ahead of his peers.

    Correct me if I'm wrong but it's usually educators that put them in the gifted category not parents it seems hard to miss a gifted child I don't think it can be pushed or taught ( no matter how hard I try my 3 yr old couldn't write his name at this stage) I think Every child's achievements need to be rewarded. No matter if they are lacking in another aspect. I love hearing how well other children are going and I know not to compare my child to them because he is
    Developing at his own pace,


 

Similar Threads

  1. What makes a child gifted?
    By Renesme in forum General Chat
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 26-11-2012, 15:23
  2. How to be quiet when all's quiet?:)
    By Irinko in forum First Trimester Chat
    Replies: 14
    Last Post: 02-11-2012, 23:14

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Mother and Baby Shop
Save $$$ during our Christmas Sale Mother and Baby Shop
Great prices on Schoenhut kids pianos, toys, baby clothing as well as big brands like Pigeon, NUK, Cherub Baby and many more. Sale starts on 1 November 2016 and ends on the 27 December 2016. Hurry! Place your order today!
sales & new stuffsee all
Pea Pods
Buy 2 Award Winning Pea Pods Reusable One Size Nappies for only $38 (in your choice of colours) and receive a FREE roll of Bamboo Liners. Don't miss out, we don't usually have discounts on the nappies, so grab this special offer!
Special Offer! Save $12
featured supporter
Pea Pods Reusable Nappies
Pea Pods are the smart choice when it comes to choosing what's best for you, your baby and the environment. Affordable and simple to use, Pea Pods keep your baby dry & happy. Visit our website to find your nearest stockist or order online.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!