Dd is 8 months now and i still hold her and pat to fall asleep. As soon as i see tired signs i cuddle her and it only takes 5 minutes and she's out. sleeps from 10 at night till 8 am in her own cot.
I dont think you are setting up for anything bad. They grow up so quick and then they won't want you lol let alone need you. DD1 (10) and DD2 (4) go straight off to bed at night no questions asked, with a story kiss and lights off.