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    There are some jobs that require a medical, and I think those are the jobs that probably want to know these things... but not every single job one might apply for should be required to know.

    I know that my anxiety won't change my work as am employee. It makes it hard for me to talk to people, but for some reason, in a working environment, I find it quite easy to talk to customers/clients. It's different to me just socialising at a party or something (which is where I feel quite uncomfortable).

    It's unlikely my anxiety would have any impact on my ability to work. Other things in my life are more likely to have an impact on my work than my mental illness. If I felt that disclosing my MI to my employer would make my life easier, then I would... but I see no point in telling anyone, and only see it as a potential risk, not a potential benefit to anyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post

    I know that my anxiety won't change my work as am employee. It makes it hard for me to talk to people, but for some reason, in a working environment, I find it quite easy to talk to customers/clients. It's different to me just socialising at a party or something (which is where I feel quite uncomfortable).
    This is me too. When I was working I was completely confident in my work role, was in charge of others etc.

    Social Situations I'm soooo uncomfortable!

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    I think the risk of discrimination outweighs the benefit of disclosure.

    In reality, if you have a serious untreated mental illness, it may be hard to keep the job anyway. For example, my brother has schizoaffective disorder and bipolar. He is on a mandatory anti psychotic drug, but he doesn't take his mood stabilisers for the bipolar. His mental state is such that he would not be able to keep a job for more than a short period, so they would quickly detect his lack of suitability.

    I think there's a lot of stigma around bipolar, and if I had it, I would not disclose. I think people would end up attributing everything you did to your illness, and you could be unfairly treated

    A woman I worked with died a couple of years ago, and i subsequently found out she had bipolar. I would have never guessed. She was the most incredible colleague and she had an impeccable and consistent work history. She was a model type employee, but I understand why she didn't disclose.

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    Not sure I get it... What/why are people worried about a person working in a care industry having a controlled mental health issue?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    It's not like they have some contagious disease that your child is going to catch. Out of all my family, my sister who is in control of her bipolar would be the one I trust my children with the most out of my 5 siblings.
    I know it's not contagious but there have been many stories of people with mental disorders either not taking medicine and having a break down or just snapping one day I just wouldn't feel comfortable having a child around them. Just my comfort level I suppose.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    I know it's not contagious but there have been many stories of people with mental disorders either not taking medicine and having a break down or just snapping one day I just wouldn't feel comfortable having a child around them. Just my comfort level I suppose.
    This is exactly the attitude that has led to my dh's cousin being told he can't be a teacher in WA anymore. He had a breakdown outside of work, recovered, and is now on the 'black list'. No one will employ him and it's not "discrimination" because they find other excuses to knock him back.
    He only found out the real reason because someone blabbed when they shouldn't. Now he can't get work even though he's a fantastic teacher and a lovely guy. Unless he moves interstate and leaves his physically crippled mum with no family around her, which for obvious reasons he doesn't want to do.
    It's very sad.
    I'm not trying to make you feel bad for the way you feel... Just perhaps trying to enlighten you that some of the people that you might think are a risk are actually extremely beneficial for kids. I'd love to have him teach my kids one day .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    I know it's not contagious but there have been many stories of people with mental disorders either not taking medicine and having a break down or just snapping one day I just wouldn't feel comfortable having a child around them. Just my comfort level I suppose.
    The reality is that people with mental illnesses are around your child all the time. They don't have to tell you, and you wouldn't know. Even if they do tell their employers, the employers certainly aren't going to, and definitely don't need to, disclose to the parents. It's this kind of social stigma that stop people from feeling they can be open about it. For all the 'many stories' you claim to have heard, there are many, many, many more people living with and managing their illness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    I know it's not contagious but there have been many stories of people with mental disorders either not taking medicine and having a break down or just snapping one day I just wouldn't feel comfortable having a child around them. Just my comfort level I suppose.
    There are plenty of people without any sort of diagnosis that 'snap' all the time, do they need to disclose their temper?

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    I'm of two minds, using childcare as an example, if DS was in a childcare centre with one worker out of 10 who has a mental illness that may at times affect their work, I would not be as bothered because there are others who can assess and supervise one anothers work and behaviour. A single person working in a at home daycare environment, I would want to know.

    Unfortunately mental illness does have the potential to be unpredictable depending on the type, severity and the patient. Any carer that works solo, it would worry me that IF they were to come off their meds, have a low cycle, etc, that it could be my child, my parent or myself that could suffer neglect or hurt due to their illness.

    My sister suffers from mental illness, and I know I would never leave DS in her care because even when medicated, her behaviour is erratic, unpredictable and she has no concept of boundaries so is constantly putting herself in dangerous situations. If she was to ever apply for a job where someone elses well being was dependent on her alone, I would be very very worried, and would consider acting on it. Just my personal experience

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    I know it's not contagious but there have been many stories of people with mental disorders either not taking medicine and having a break down or just snapping one day I just wouldn't feel comfortable having a child around them. Just my comfort level I suppose.
    There's also plenty of stories about people with no history of mental illness having a breakdown or just 'snapping'.

    Mental illness is an extremely broad term. If you kept your child away from all people who've ever been diagnosed with an illness you may be surprised to find how few carers are left.

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