I'll reiterate, I'm not defending drunk driving. It's not something I do, and I think it is the wrong thing to do.
However, I have known people who have done it. In some cases they were idiots who did it routinely - in which case I don't have much sympathy.
I have one friend who was booked the morning after a night out, and thought she would be okay to drive. I do have sympathy there.
I have another friend who drove drunk after an argument with a boyfriend. She was very drunk and highly emotional, and not thinking straight at all. She wasn't caught, there were no accidents, but she felt terrible about the fact that she had done it and the 'what ifs'. I do have sympathy there too.
I worked with someone who, many years ago, threw one punch that killed someone. We all know that can happen. He was drunk, emotional, and the guy he killed had been targeting him for weeks - and in this instance he snapped, with devastating consequences. I have sympathy there.
Having sympathy does not mean I think they did the right thing, nor that I don't have sympathy for the victims/ those hurt by someone's actions.
But I believe that to be human is to be imperfect. I believe in forgiveness. And I believe that someone can sometimes just massively stuff up and for it to have life-wrecking consequences for everyone involved. There are no winners in those cases, and I feel sorry for them all.