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    Quote Originally Posted by Bell & Bug View Post
    There's nothing wrong with him suggesting she get waxed, but that doesn't mean she should. If she isn't comfortable with doing it, she is well within her right to say no, and he has to respect that.
    I totally agree....no is no. I was trying for a different perspective...so maybe the OP would not be so angry about it as all the replies to the OP was 'he's a b@stard, etc'.

    And as I said in my post was that I hope I could....not that I would.

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    Oh god..

    Just tell him no and be done with it! Stand up for yourself woman bloody hell..it does hurt and you have other stuff going on too.

    If my husband tried to make me groom any part of my body in any particular way he'd get a cuff around the ears and told to get a grip!

    Ridiculous. End it firmly next time and don't let it bother you. He sounds like a child.

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    It was the implication that she's being unreasonable that I took issue with. He has asked. She has said no. That should be the end of it. It doesn't matter if it's an@l s3x, waxing or a regular s3xual position that she doesn't like. She has said no - end of conversation. Him using the "if you loved me" line is totally bs.

    Now, if I took you out of context, I apologise. But I doubt I was the only one who did.

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    OP just wanted to shed some inside light on it for you.

    Even if you did reluctantly go along and get a brazillian just the once for his pleasure, I can tell you know that unless your pubic hair is very light blonde and not a lot there, then he won't be as pleased with the results as he'd expect.

    When I first had a brazillian I was soo disappointed because in my head, I was gunna come out looking like a porn star (yep-I blame porn for this!) but instead, given that it was the first one and I had been shaving for at least ten years-probably more, and so that I didn't pass out from the pain (and I have a pretty high pain tolerance!), the end result was not at all porn star like, and even after the tweezing, it was still not 100% smooth and hairless.




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    Lol..floatingfairy!! Yep... It takes a couple of goes...
    Not pretty...

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    I think it's perfectly fine for him to ask but once you say no he should drop it. Not nag you and be mean! That's really inappropriate and immature!!

    Maybe you can suggest he do it first

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    Quote Originally Posted by FloatingFairy View Post
    OP just wanted to shed some inside light on it for you.

    Even if you did reluctantly go along and get a brazillian just the once for his pleasure, I can tell you know that unless your pubic hair is very light blonde and not a lot there, then he won't be as pleased with the results as he'd expect.

    When I first had a brazillian I was soo disappointed because in my head, I was gunna come out looking like a porn star (yep-I blame porn for this!) but instead, given that it was the first one and I had been shaving for at least ten years-probably more, and so that I didn't pass out from the pain (and I have a pretty high pain tolerance!), the end result was not at all porn star like, and even after the tweezing, it was still not 100% smooth and hairless.




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    Off topic a little but I wonder of they just didn't do a good job where you went?? After my first Brazilian it was smooth as ... Total ... *cough* porn star!!

    To OP ... You know I'm a person who gets brazilians - but I sure as sh!t wouldn't want to be told to. Whilst I understand him asking if you would - I think pressuring you and using it as an argument that you call all the shots is a little off.

    It's a personal decision that only you can decide. He can request all he wants - but really you should be calling all the shots when it comes to your body

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    AGree with PPs that it's your body and he's being unreasonable. You were right to stand your ground. I hope the counselling helps you guys.

    On a practical level if you did want to try hair removal without the pain and ingrown hairs, I used to use hair removal cream down there for years to take ALL the hair off and it worked a treat. Smooth and pain free. I got lasered last year so now am fuzz-free but that used to work for me. Just a suggestion in case YOU feel like doing it as it doesn't involve pain or public display which was my take on what bothered you about a wax.

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    tigger - I use to use that stuff on my legs and I would get a horrible red rash. There is not a chance that I would put it on my cha cha , but thanks for the tip!

    I admit that I don't look after down there as well as I should and would like, but I have sensitive skin basically ALL OVER my body! The only place that isn't sensitive is my arms, but I'm sure if I started waxing or shaving them too they would look as crap as the rest of me. I have dermatitis on my face, my legs are just yuck (I get really bad ingrown hairs and sores), and even if I simply shave down there, it goes all red and bumpy and yucky, and because I have PCOS, I guess that's why all of my hair everywhere grows back so soon, but if I shave the same areas a few days after eachother, it stings like all hell and goes even more red and bumpy!
    That's why I don't look after it as well as I should, but I try to make it reasonably presentable lol.

    As for DH, he definately has some 'issues'. I could go on and on about all of the things he says that would make you go , but they only seem to come up when we are having an arguement. He doesn't harrass me with it every day or anything.

    I haven't heard back from this councelling place yet, but if I do, I really hope they can help us. I know that I'm not perfect either and could fix a few things, but I think DH's problem all comes down to being unreasonable. Hopefully the counceller will make him see that

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    Wanting to be attractive to your partner and to sexually excite them is normal and natural and there is nothing wrong with that. What's wrong is that your partner is making demands - and demands that you have repeatedly refused.

    That is not on.

    When he didn't get his own way with YOUR body, he chucked a tantrum and made sure you felt bad by dragging up relationship history.

    That is not on.

    When you suggested that you get help for your relationship troubles, he plays the victim while being the aggressor and calling you a b!tch.

    That is not on.

    Whether he agrees to go to counselling or not, I think you should definitely go. You need strategies to deal with his behaviour (and your own - I'm sure you aren't entirely blameless. None of us are ).

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