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    I have an odd situation and want to know everyone's opinions on whether this is "okay"

    I llive with my grandmother and ds, ds and I share a bedroom, he has a king single and I have a single. although 99% of the time he gets into bed with me by the morning.

    I have the option of losing our lounge/study/toy room and making it into a room for him. So my question is:
    is it okay for us to share a room
    when does this change ( is their an age it is no longer appropriate)
    This isn't going to be forever just 4 years max as I want to save up to mortgage
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    First of all, how old is DS?

    Unless he is like, 7yo or over I don't think it's a problem him sharing a room with you. Anything older than that he's going to get hassled by his mates. Maybe younger, I don't know how mean young kids are nowadays or what sort of school you send DS to.

    I would totally make a room for him if it were an option. Use the toy room, it's already his anyway isn't it, full of his stuff? Organise it and personalise it so he really feels it's his space, rather than just storage space for toys.

    E.T.A. Oh, I just re-read and saw that the toyroom is actually the lounge and study as well.

    Um, difficult.

    But if your boy is young I don't think it matters at all.
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    If you don't have the space I don't think it's ever inappropriate.

    How old is your DS? Unless he is old enough to ask and understand the situation to give a genuine answer, I wouldn't bother losing your lounge room, that's your sanctuary too?

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    I think its completely fine, its not like your son is a teenager or anything.

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    I think it's completely fine, as long as he is comfortable with it.

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    Is there any way you can sort of get privacy within the bedroom you're in at the moment, e.g. stringing up a curtain etc?

    Another solution may be to get a loft bed and place it over the lounge so that you can both have some private sleeping space. One room could be the bedroom/toyroom with lounge and the other could be a bedroom where you keep all the clothes etc?

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    If you are not planning any sexual activity, I don't see the need for you to stop sharing. You are both only sleeping, what's the big deal? Western society seems so caught up in having seperate sleeping areas for everyone. I don't get it.

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    If you're both comfortable with the current arrangement, then I don't see any need to change it. However, going forward 4 years you may as your son gets older.

    Could you have one room as toyroom / DS room (with loft bed if space is limited) and the other as lounge / your room (with sofa bed if space is limited)? By splitting day and night uses, you have a toy room and lounge for the day and bedrooms for the night with the ability for you to study or watch tv after DS goes to bed.

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