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    Quote Originally Posted by sjay View Post
    This is the one thing that's stood out most for me in this whole thread. Instead of worrying about if a breast is showing, if a baby is bottlefed, whether the parents choose CC/CIO or cuddle their little ones to sleep, isn't it just time we congratulate each other for getting through not only the pregnancy, but every single stressful minute that each and every one of us feels from the moment they are born. If a baby is happy and healthy why can't we just celebrate each other despite the opposing opinions - because it's a bloody tough job.

    Yes my rant got slightly off topic, but seriously - a mother is nourishing her baby and you're upset about a boob? Sheesh!
    And ultimately, that was my reason for starting this thread - not for another discussion about public breastfeeding (been there, done that) but because I was so mortified to see one woman tearing another woman down for feeding her baby...and that the source of her ire was something so pathetic, immature and shallow as the aesthetic of the womans breast. It really struck me that this was on the day after international womens day. Why are we still doing this to each other?

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    Thank you.

    Agreed. Public ridicule and judgement is way too high in all areas, rather than JUSt breastfeeding..

    My rant was aimed at anyone who feels offended or the need to ridicule those who feed bubs in public without "covering up"

    As I stated within my rant, Feeling uncomfortable is one thing, but it is much easier for someone on their own free time who isnt juggling sleep deprivation and a million other things to turn away and forget about it, then for the women with newborns/attachment issues/emotional dealings to have to feel pressured to cover up because it inconveniences the non busy non stressed person who is simply sipping their coffee..

    It isn't easy feeling like someone, somewhere is shaking their head at you every day, no matter what, and it shouldn't be happening at all for something as loving/caring as breastfeeding bubs.

    Glad I saved some typing time for those who enjoyed my lil soapbox session

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    instant solution - LOOK AWAY!!

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    There babies and there being fed! What's disgusting about that?

    What so a baby who is fed a bottles should be made to cover up because there feeding? Or next time we go out to eat we should wear a blanket over our head to cover up?

    No wonder many women don't breast feed any more.. We're all growing up in a society that labels breast feeding inconvienit and disgusting?

    And since when should people see a lactating breast as "disgusting".. Why because porn and the media mark breasts as sex objects?
    The only reason people feel awkward about it is because there not comfterble in there own skin... They have been raised thinking breasts are sex objects and "private"

    You don't see people getting all up in arms over a naked Ape breast feeding her young in a zoo? maybe mammals should be made to "cover up" as well!

    Breasts are there for a reason, they were put there to feed our young!!
    Not for what ever sexual reason this generation believes that there there for.

    I think breast feeding a baby is the most beautiful thing.
    And good on the women who don't cover up in public or run into the toilets to feed there babies.
    I know I wouldn't want to eat in a public rest room, nor do I expect any other child out there too.


    Why should people even make comments on what the boobs look like? Does it matter? I know before pregnancy my boobs had nothing inbetwene them.. Now the almost have a belly button inbetwene them! Lol.
    And I love my boobs and I love the way they look now. As long as they do there job I'm not fussed.

    For all I care I will whip my tit out and feed my baby in a cafe, people can choke on there latè and muffin, I don't care, it's there problem, do they not know how to look away??

    Ok I think my rant is over now lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachell View Post
    There babies and there being fed! What's disgusting about that?

    What so a baby who is fed a bottles should be made to cover up because there feeding? Or next time we go out to eat we should wear a blanket over our head to cover up?

    No wonder many women don't breast feed any more.. We're all growing up in a society that labels breast feeding inconvienit and disgusting?

    And since when should people see a lactating breast as "disgusting".. Why because porn and the media mark breasts as sex objects?
    The only reason people feel awkward about it is because there not comfterble in there own skin... They have been raised thinking breasts are sex objects and "private"

    You don't see people getting all up in arms over a naked Ape breast feeding her young in a zoo? maybe mammals should be made to "cover up" as well!

    Breasts are there for a reason, they were put there to feed our young!!
    Not for what ever sexual reason this generation believes that there there for.

    I think breast feeding a baby is the most beautiful thing.
    And good on the women who don't cover up in public or run into the toilets to feed there babies.
    I know I wouldn't want to eat in a public rest room, nor do I expect any other child out there too.


    Why should people even make comments on what the boobs look like? Does it matter? I know before pregnancy my boobs had nothing inbetwene them.. Now the almost have a belly button inbetwene them! Lol.
    And I love my boobs and I love the way they look now. As long as they do there job I'm not fussed.

    For all I care I will whip my tit out and feed my baby in a cafe, people can choke on there latè and muffin, I don't care, it's there problem, do they not know how to look away??

    Ok I think my rant is over now lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by MsMummy View Post
    I have d cup saggy boobs with tea cup size nipples and I fed my baby when and where needed.

    Breastfeeding women don't need any more barriers to combining feeding and ordinary life.

    Australian society has weird double standards. The shops are full of shorts where your bottom hangs out and tiny bikinis, but a utilitarian breast is a big fuss.
    Oh i so hear you there. I was gob smacked at a shopping center last weekend by the amount of 12-16 year olds with their asses hanging out of their shorts.

    I couldn't give a toss about a mother breastfeeding in public. If anything i would just smile wether she covered herself or not. But then maybe thats because i breast fed also. In any case there is nothing at all to be ashamed of. It's bizzare that women can still be made to feel weird about it.
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    Denim undies I call them. Funny how breastfeeding is 'offensive' enough to put people off their coffee but the fashions these days either have the bum hanging out the top of the shorts or showing through the bottom.

    My carefactor for the human body is somewhere between zero and minus ten, women should breastfeed wherever and whenever their baby is hungry as it is their legal right.

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    Hahahaha! Denim undies lol love it

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    Quote Originally Posted by GothChick View Post
    'Bitty?'!
    thanks for making me laugh needed it this morning My DH is always going on about this lately!! saying can i have a bit of "Bitty" baby will be having it soon and i will miss out

    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    Denim undies I call them.
    This too our friends nearly 16yo DD wears things i wouldn't even dare let my daughter wear.... We went out for dinner for DH's b'day and she was dressed like she was going to a nightclub, hooker heels and all.. All the men in the pub were staring at her, i wonder if they would have if they knew her age..

    I plan on BFing in public, not sure if i will use a cover or not i'm lucky though that a lot of the cafe's here are BFing friendly I don't care if people look, let them i say and if they want to say something i will argue back. I grew up around people breastfeeding and it was such a natural occurance that now i don't even care if people are doing it.

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    So many things I want to say on this, but I really don't write what I'm thinking very well so it's probably pretty pointless, so I'll just describe how I feel when breastfeeding.

    With my first, I used to feel like all eyes were on me, all the time, and felt uncomfortable. I didn't make it past 7 months feeding him, because he became very fussy and destracted and so it was almost impossible to cover up while out and so I would take a bottle instead, and then of course my supply dwindled and BF = over.

    This time around, I was determined that wouldn't happen, and BF to me all of a sudden became something I was not only proud of, but it was not an option. If she was hungry I fed her, whether that be every 20 mins, in shopping checkout or wherever. I didn't care. I knew the eyes were still on me, but instead of being embarrassed of them I made myself believe that these people were looking at me thinking how awesome I was

    I would generally wear something that made my breasts easily accessible but would cover most skin (I just feel more comfortable this way), like a singlet under a tshirt, tshirt up, singlet down. No one sees anything this way anyway!! But there's been more than one occassion where I've forgotten and gone out in a tshirt, and well I've walked around the shop with my tshirt pulled up with my whole belly showing to the world just so Mik could eat. Meh, what can you do? She was hungy.

    It really upsets me when people have a go at breastfeeding women, because they are the reason I didn't feed Hayden for longer, so of course he is the one that suffered because of my discomfort.

    I do love the women who just whip their boob out anywhere they like coz they just don't care! But I will never be one of those women, I do like to stay discreet for my own comfort. It's pretty easy to do I reckon, even with a baby who won't be covere - of which Mik is one. But I do agree that you shouldn't HAVE to. It's just a normal natural thing.

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