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    Oh, and I don't hate on the people who find a mother breastfeeding in public uncomfortable either. It's probably society's fault and the way they were raised that's to blame for their discomfort... BUT they need to keep their nasty comments and opinions to themselves. Fine, admit it makes you uncomfortable if you must, but don't make that our problem (our being women who BIP). It's your problem not ours.

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    Haven't read the whole thread, but I want to say that I would have clocked anyone who had a go at DW when she was bf in public. As it was she got a few dirty looks, at which point I made a point of looking particularly beligerent.

    Grrr. Passionate "feed where you damn well want to and those who have a problem with it can get stuffed" supporter here!

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    Quote Originally Posted by GluttonForPunishment View Post
    Haven't read the whole thread, but I want to say that I would have clocked anyone who had a go at DW when she was bf in public. As it was she got a few dirty looks, at which point I made a point of looking particularly beligerent.

    Grrr. Passionate "feed where you damn well want to and those who have a problem with it can get stuffed" supporter here!
    Yanno, I find that it's mostly women who are "put off their coffee" by the highly offensive sight of another woman breastfeeding her baby. Most men I've known wouldn't bat an eyelid or probably even notice. I'd love to know why this is - jealousy? Insecurity? Guilt that some can't breastfeed?

    I just don't GET it. We've all got nipples!!! And most women have breasts, I don't see the issue.

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    I always find it's more obvious that you're feeding when you cover up. I was talking DH's workmate whilst feeding my son and he asked me to do something, it wasn't until I said I'd do it when I'd finished feeding him that he even realized and said sorry leave you to it, I said i was fine with it, so was he, back to conversation....

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    I'm a breastfeeder that feeds in public whenever my DD is hungry.. I've fed in restaurants, an outdoor setting for sale in Big W & even the front seat at church at my daughters christening cause she wasn't going to wait! I dare anyone to say anything to me while I'm feeding my daughter

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    Haven't got through the ten pages (!) yet, but had to laugh at the description of the big nipples - DH always says how much he loves my massive ones, and in fact bragged about them to a mate when we first got together. Mind you I had BFd for 20 months previous to that. Anyhow... Big nips rock!!!

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    My reactions to it are probably for a number of reasons now I think about it;

    I never see it, on my daily travels I think I have come across 4 women doing it in my life so when it happened I was pretty shocked and didnt quite know how to react. I have never had say a mothers group or been round a group of women who BF etc.
    Growing up breasts were always a shameful thing. I remember my sister starting to get boobs and my uncle grabbed one of them and said 'not long now'...it made me want to vomit, she was so embarrassed.
    Breasts were something to be hidden and never shown,if we tried to go out in anything even slightly showing, dad would call us tarts and sluts and other nasty names. Funny considering his 'ways'.

    I have never really known how to react around a woman Bfing, I know im going to look, I cant help it, but then they catch you and its like 'okayy um, what do I do now, do I look away, carry on looking and smile??' It puts me in an uncomfortable position.

    I am bisexual, so yes, boobs, any boobs, are going to be sexual for me, I am going to perve on you if you have your boobs out, I cant help it, Im a boob kinda gal. So again, it makes me feel uncomfortable because I KNOW im perving on you and im trying not to but, well, if you are sat there with them out, im going to look.


    So, they are my reasons. I have been thinking about this thread for days and that is what I have come up with.

    Like I said in one of my earlier posts though, it is my issue, if you need to feed baby, you have to do it wherever and whenever you have to. You should never let other people's issues with it stop you feeding your child when he/she is hungry.

    But they were my reasons for wanting a mother to cover up whilst she did it.

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    Gothchick - your uncle sounds like he needs a course in what sexual harrassment is.. especially to minors.. creepy :\ Sorry to hear that's how you were raised.. you shouldnt feel ashamed about what is essentially, just part of your body.

    So good to see a male putting in his 2 cents - Good on you GFP!

    Honestly, I breastfed in public with both my boys anywhere no matter what and only very few times did I actually notice any weird or nasty looks, though Im sure there were more. I tend not to notice those things even when Im self concious of them. I never had a single person come up and actually say a thing to me about it. But I would be mortified if that happened!

    Despite this I am certain that many many times people were judging me, you just get that vibe all around you when you do something which ettiquette is questionable within a society. - Thats the part the I feel is unfair, the fact that you know there are those kind of thoughts floating around you. It is societies fault yes, rather then individuals, but the individuals who accept and practice this pattern of thinking are the ones supporting the fault of society.

    Im honestly not looking forward to breastfeeding in public again, because of this exact issue, but sure as the last two times it wont stop me now either.

    You know what else is funny, they will scoff and judge at the inconvenience of you breastfeeding, but you could bet your last cent they would be scoffing and judging harder if god forbid that same baby was crying and inconveniencing their poor precious ears!!

    Forgive my spelling/grammatical errors, its been a long day at TAFE today lol


 

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