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    Quote Originally Posted by chubby bunny View Post
    I don't think so...

    There have been lots of issues in the past he cheated on me twice (actually relationships not just slip ups) and often made me feel like I wasn't a great person... and the reason for his stuff up was because of things I did... Such as putting on weight!!
    I didn't have very good self esteem then so I just put up with it...Now I am a much stronger person and I don't think this is something I can forget about

    You certainly sound like a strong person as it is so you just need to be that bit stronger and tell him. The sooner you tell him the sooner you can get everything sorted and move on Being in a relationship your not happy in is unhealthy.

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    no go to a divorce lawyer same rules don't need to be actually married saves paying twice when the first one does not know what they are talking about

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    Good luck.

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    Its never easy ending things, I hope he handles it well!! If you think he is going to be spiteful then I think it would be wise to seek legal advice and get all the information you need before you end things. It might also help you to make the decisions you need to make in order for the transition to be as smooth and quick as possible. It sounds like you have made peace with your decision and your doing the right thing. Wishing you all the very best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chubby bunny View Post
    Do you think it would just best to speak to a general lawyer?
    Sorry to hear that you are going through this but at least you have made your mind up and not doubting yourself.

    You need to see a family law solicitor.

    Good luck with the next phase of your life... IMO you are doing the right thing mg leaving.

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    no advice, just good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by shelle65 View Post
    As for being spiteful.. A good friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend a few years ago - basically told him she was in love with a friend of his. When he moved out of the house they shared he destroyed a lot of her belongings, wrote nasty things on her mirror with her makeup, poisoned her plants... things like that. You know - whatever sympathy anyone had for him evaporated when he behaved like a 5 year old about it, and my friend felt a lot less guilty about hurting him.

    Good luck
    I was going to say that if he reacts spitefully then it shows more about him than it does anything else.

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    Just go no kids so worse thing is you have to fight over the house so find a lace to go and go get out find mr wonderful goodluck

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    Thanks for all the kind words ladies I will definitely look in to seeing a lawyer ASAP so I know where I stand legally.

    I think he knows something up...he asked me last night if everything was ok cause I seemed distant to him. I just said no I'm fine. Need to get my ducks in line fast, cause I'm obviously a terrible actress.

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    Ok so I spoke to DP last night and I told him that I wasn't happy, didn't know who I was or what I wanted any more...

    At first he said that he thought this was coming, he thought that I had been distant for the past week and asked me what had happened? I told him that I've had the feelings on and off for a while, but I was hoping that they would go, and they haven't and I didn't think it was fair to continue with the relationship if I wasn't 100% in it...

    Any way so I don't go on forever...In a nut shell he is shocked and upset and keeps asking me not to go, that he doesn't know what he'll do without me, change my mind work through it, asks how come I didn't say anything earlier?

    I don't know what else to say to him, I know it sounds crazy (after my first post) but I really don't want to hurt him, I feel like I have nothing left to give and emotionally I think I have already checked out! I was crying along with him last night but only because I was upset that I'd hurt him, not because I was sad?


    I don't know what else to say or do...


 

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