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    Default I don't want to be with my DP anymore

    So as the title says...I don't want to be here any more!

    Fortunately we don't have any Children, but we have a house together (mortgage) and have been together for over 10 years... We have had a really rocky past but for the past few years things have been ok...But I'm not the same girl any more and I know if I feel this way now it's only going to get worse as the days and years go on...

    I don't know what to do? How to say it? I feel like I have already emotionally checked out!

    If anyone has any wise words for me I need them!!!
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    I guess you just have to be honest with him easier said than done I know.

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    I am so worried how he will react... I have this horrible feeling he is going to be so spiteful about it

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    Just be honest and talk to him. Is marriage counseling an option? If your sure it's over I'd talk to him and get the ball rolling.

    I wish I had better advice or even some words of wisdom for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by waterlily View Post
    Just be honest and talk to him. Is marriage counseling an option? If your sure it's over I'd talk to him and get the ball rolling.

    I wish I had better advice or even some words of wisdom for you.

    I don't think so...

    There have been lots of issues in the past he cheated on me twice (actually relationships not just slip ups) and often made me feel like I wasn't a great person... and the reason for his stuff up was because of things I did... Such as putting on weight!!
    I didn't have very good self esteem then so I just put up with it...Now I am a much stronger person and I don't think this is something I can forget about

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    Quote Originally Posted by chubby bunny View Post
    he cheated on me twice (actually relationships not just slip ups)
    Go now go please slips ups come on you are better than even that - complete deal breaker if it happened to either of us in this house

    As far the house sell rent it out least of the problems really

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    I agree sounds like its time to go! He doesn't sound like a very nice person (sorry) can you get intouch with a lawyer to see where you Stand on the legal side of thing?

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    No, it's fine he can be a horrible person, but tends to mask it well.

    I just want it to be quick...

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    What a jerk, you don't owe him anything.

    Unfortunately it's a bit like ripping off a bandaid - the quicker and more painful in the short term, the sooner it is done and dusted the sooner you both can move on.

    As for being spiteful.. A good friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend a few years ago - basically told him she was in love with a friend of his. When he moved out of the house they shared he destroyed a lot of her belongings, wrote nasty things on her mirror with her makeup, poisoned her plants... things like that. You know - whatever sympathy anyone had for him evaporated when he behaved like a 5 year old about it, and my friend felt a lot less guilty about hurting him.

    Good luck

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    Do you think it would just best to speak to a general lawyer?


 

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