NEW mothers should have sex with their partners ...even if they have to grin &bear it

[hoping28]

WTH!! I can't even imagine i will be in the mood for a while. Plus Nursery is right next to our bedroom and our bed backs on to same wall as cot.....AND DH's parents and mine are coming to stay for a couple of weeks... there will be no WAY!!

[CitrusRain]

What an idiot. It took at least 6 months for things down there to get back to normal for me (tons of stitches and emotional trauma) and I can promise that there is no way I would have been ready at 4 weeks post birth! I know very few women who are physically and emotionally ready then and to say to grin and bear it is such an insult to both them and their partner! I feel sorry for her if the men she has been associated with are that single minded that they can't wait for their partners to be ready! If you choose to make a baby (as a couple) then you have chosen to take whatever comes and if that's 4 weeks or 14 months without sex then well that just how it is. Thankfully my DH saw it this way too and his patience and understanding paid off! Things are better than ever now. I think intimacy and communication are the keys to maintaining your relationship after having a baby. Whether that involves sex or not shouldn't matter. That silly old bat needs to get a life instead of commenting on things she clearly knows NOTHING about!

[Guest1234]

..besides, intimacy isn't defined by sex only. I'm sure both parents wouldn't mind a bit of kissing, cuddling, massage etc etc. sex doesn't even have to come into it!!!

[jennibear]

I wonder if the advice is the same for a man. After hes had a testical removed or after hes had a cancer removed from his p3nis, should he have s3x 1 week after and grin and bear it!!

Hey i know...lets out MORE pressure on new mums...that'll do wonders for the PND rates

Unbelieveable

[MissPoss]

Yeah, no thanks. Someone put some stitches in her hoohar and see how soon she wants to have sex. See how she feels about 'poor neglected men' then.

I get that you need to let your partner know they're still a huge part of your life, but there are other ways...like, oh I don't know, telling him?

If DH knew I was just "grinning and baring it" he'd be horrified. Instant turn off.

[Mummy2MissA]

Having sex was painful for me after birth. Felt slightly "normal" and painless 6-8 months post-birth. I put it down to the enormous amount of breast feeding I was doing. my dh didn't want to do it if it was painful for me. I have to admit a few times early on I did just do it (even tho it was a bit painful) and my dh felt really upset when I told him this after.

[Missemzy]

She's a joke!

Clearly has no idea what some women go through and the recovery after having a baby.

PLUS.. men have a hand if they are that desperate

[Turk EnJayDee]

Wow.

Just, wow. I had a tear from... Well, a long way. At 6 week check up, a stitch had turned the wrong way and given me an infected spot that needed 4 more weeks healing.

DP and I were so caught up in the wonder that was our DD, and we spent so much time just lying next to each other, cuddling, kissing and talking in "lovey dovey" voices that there was no intimacy lost.

I think it was 12 weeks when we eventually did and it was still quite painful, DP was adamant that we would not do anything until I was ready.

Gina Ford can bite me.

[GluttonForPunishment]

How ridiculous. She writes as if s3x was the only form of intimacy! Goodness me, I was so hesitant when ex-DW had DD1&2 because I knew a: what she had gone through b: how tired she was from breastfeeding and the late nights and little sleep etc. I helped out and took a share of the load and we would just hold each other when we DID get a chance to sleep. Those were good days - I feel that we were the closest we ever were then. And s3x had NOTHING to do with it!

What an idiot.

[dannii83]

Gosh whoever would take that article seriously anyway? Shes made a complete fool of herself, and has become a huge laughing stock!

Backfired big time.

What a twit, she's also a divorced motherless woman...

Absolute idiot.