NEW mothers should have sex with their partners ...even if they have to grin &bear it

[sweetseven]

People should not feel obliged to have sex at any time. That advice is just plain wrong.

[Mrs E]

Jesus I'm glad my husband doesn't agree with this and it's been many months since we've been there. Bubs is now 4 weeks old and as previously stated is constantly attached to my boob. I'm flat out eating some days, forget time for sex lol

[MissMuppet]

I think new mums are already under a lot of pressure to be the perfect mum and learn new baby settling skills quickly and cope with all the changes and this just adds one more 'job' to the list.

Must keep baby happy. Must keep father happy in bed. What about themselves?

I agree not neglecting their relationship is important but that's the responsibility of both parents, and its not so simple as just 'put out like it or not'.

[LotusMum]

I really dont understand how a childless person can be a baby/child expert. Sure, they can have experience with children, but they will never be an expert without knowing how it veels to be a parent 24/7.
Gina Vord et al make my blood boil.

[NancyBlackett]

I think being childless makes it much easier to be an expert No harsh realities getting in the way!

[bumMum]

She should be ashamed.

I agree. And unfortunately some expecting and new mums will read this and mentally store this rubbish and add it to the pressures they already have on them and freak out that hubby will leave them or feel neglected if they don't get sexy soon. Ugh


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[chameleon]

That is terrible advice! Oh I am sure some husbands would like it but I would hope most would not be happy with their partner "grinning and bearing it". Never reading her books!

[OurLittleBlessing]

Good point chameleon, I know for a fact my DH would find it a turn off if I was 'grinning and bearing it'

[delirium]

lol this is coming from a woman that hasn't actually had children I don't think there's any time constraints, a week, a month, 3months. The key is not feeling pressure. Men aren't these poor creatures that need to be given their own way on every little thing or there is argued to be a threat of cheating/leaving... and I know she didn't mention cheating as such but that's really the next progression isn't it? Women should 'grin and bear it' (that just makes me shudder) so if she advocates this sense of entitlement then the idea she thinks men will cheat without it, isn't a stretch.

I actually find the notion quite distasteful, that we are somehow just vessels to please our husbands...

[Bubs'n'Roses]

I'll have sex when I damn well feel like it. And if that's five months after giving birth my "poor" husband will have to "grin and bare" it.

What a moron.