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    Default OMG Horrified, my 6yo son exposed to porn

    My DH took my 6yo son to a friend of his place today for a visit. He is a guy my hubby hasn't seen for a long time and he has never met his 2 step-sons. The boys are about 8 and 12yo. Anyway, my hubby and his mate were outside having a beer and the kids were inside playing on the computer and Play-station. My boy doesn't play computers much and we dont have a PS (or any other similar thing)...so he was excited to be playing on it. Apparently there are 2 computers and the younger boys were playing one and the older on the other.

    On the way home in the car, my son told DH that the older boy showed horrible pictures on his computer, of things such as people sticking bottles up their bums and other things in their penises etc..just awful, depraved type things. He was upset and shocked by it as (obviously) he has never been exposed or heard of such things before. My DH immediately rang his friend to tell him what had happened (who was equally horrified and embarrassed about it, but did say it wasn't the first time he had done/looked at such things).
    We had to explain to our boy that there can be awful things on the internet, not suitable for kids, and told him sometimes people do stupid things that aren't always real. But, god, how do you explain such things to a little boy??
    We haven't talked details too much, but have let him tell us what he wants and also ask questions as he want.
    We are so proud that he told us, but wish he had come to his dad straight away,at the time.
    Arrggghh, I'm so upset by it all..you can't take it back and I feel just terrible that he has seen such things at such a young age. So sad...

    Of course, I have to also wonder about how/why the other child had access to such material...


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    I have no advice I'm sorry. I hope your little man is okay. We do all we can to shelter them but it's sometimes an impossible battle.

    I hope someone else had some advice for you.

    I think you and your DH handled it very well.

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    Age 4 my daughter googled her name and came up with a porn sight so don't be too quick to blame the dad. It is everywhere

    It happened again when my friend and her kids were over, my daughter looked up kissing games (she was obsessed with kissing) and again came up with porn, it was one of those awful sites where when you try and close it, it asks are you sure and you think you click on the right button but its not and it opens the page again etc. Needless to say, I was horrified.

    She's fine, she told me in the same way your son did, "I saw some funny pictures of bla bla bla", she was a bit disturbed, but pretty sure shes forgotten it all now. I said the same kind of thing as you- "thats a bit silly isn't it?" etc

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    Sounds like you've handled it well. PP's are right. P*rn is everywhere. Yesterday DH and I were looking up night lights for DS and the first site Google listed was p*rn! I mean really. How is that related in any way to a night light!!

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    You have handled it great. We did the same thing with my cousin. The best thing you can hope for is they are at an age where as they grow older they will push it out and forget about it like my cousin did and just be more vigilant with what they are exposed too

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    I think you and ur dh handled the situation the best way. Horrible situation. Hugs to you all.

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    You kinow I think what bothers me most is WHAT he saw..it wasn't just people having sex..that we could have at least talked about what they were doing, the "birds and the bees" sort of thing..but this was really weird stuff, and very graphic..no answers for him as to WHY people would do such damaging things that would make any sense for him....
    You know in my day (haha I sound ancient! I'm only 33!) when we came across porn as kids, it was a crumpled magazine, with people having plain old everyday sex...kids are/can be exposed to much more "out there" stuff now. I'm sure it was always around (?) but it was not main****** at all. I must have been in my mid-teens before I was exposed to any type of porn..

    Poor little man wanted to go to bed in our bed tonight because he couldn't stop thinking about the horrible pictures...I feel like my little man has lost his innocence! Prolly a bit OTT but I feel sad for him

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaybaby View Post
    You kinow I think what bothers me most is WHAT he saw..it wasn't just people having sex..that we could have at least talked about what they were doing, the "birds and the bees" sort of thing..but this was really weird stuff, and very graphic..no answers for him as to WHY people would do such damaging things that would make any sense for him....
    You know in my day (haha I sound ancient! I'm only 33!) when we came across porn as kids, it was a crumpled magazine, with people having plain old everyday sex...kids are/can be exposed to much more "out there" stuff now. I'm sure it was always around (?) but it was not main****** at all. I must have been in my mid-teens before I was exposed to any type of porn..

    Poor little man wanted to go to bed in our bed tonight because he couldn't stop thinking about the horrible pictures...I feel like my little man has lost his innocence! Prolly a bit OTT but I feel sad for him
    No not OTT I understand. I would prob feel the same. I have been trying to think up reasonable explanations to help but unfortunately there really isn't any. Sorry. It's really frightening to think they are so easily exposed to it. Maybe instead of him thinking about those images with the body parts maybe explain the good things like the way two people can cuddle and be in love and that's what they are really for not those yukky things. (keeping it appropriate for his age, but mention the good special importance of s3x) like the birds and the bees in a very loving way and when there is lots of love babies happen to share that love. And that those people doing vulgar stuff were a little confused or something. :/


 

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