I say follow your feelings and be very weary!My 35 year old BIL has shown an 'unhealthy' interest in my kids (and their cousins). He pushes normal social boundaries, kissing them constantly, offers to bath them, always wants to take the kids to the park alone, and always has to carry my 2 year old DD rather than letting her walk. When we're leaving he says "kiss on the lips for uncle ....". It makes me want to vomit!
Every time we have a family get-together people always comment "oh, he's so good with kids isn't he?".
I have no evidence that he's a pedophile but you can understand my concern. The way he acts around the kids is just not normal for a male that age.
He has a history of major drug use. Supposedly he is now clean but the drugs have definately left some permanent brain damage... he often says inappropriate things in social situations, etc. So there's a chance that he is not a pedophile at all and simply doesn't understand normal boundaries with children. But I'm not prepared to take that risk.
He is currently living at my in-law's so we can't avoid seeing him. I'm sick of following him around everywhere to keep an eye on my kids. And I can't let my in-laws babysit because I can't trust that they won't leave my kids alone with him.
I know I need to talk to my DH about it. I have made a couple of comments to which he just says I'm over-reacting.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation where you didn't trust someone around your kids? Any advice?