Trust your gut. Talk to your DH.
I agree a lot with the instincts. It doesn't mean exclude him, but just set up boundaries.
I wouldn't let my BIL do any of the above with the kids and I don't think he would even want to, but my husbands brothers and close cousins that we know well. Definitely. But that's based on instincts and how well I know them. They're also an exceptionally affectionate family.
I would listen to your intuition, keep your distance and talk to your DH.
Look, he may not be a threat but i think it's better to keep your distance and be wrong vs ignore your gut and have it turn out he is - it's a risk that isn't worth taking imo.
Oh my goodness, this guy is screaming out he is a paedophiles, why would he be interested in bathing children. Run don't walk your kids away from this man.
I think you have a right to be concerned. As a survivor of sexual abuse i can tell you that part of the grooming process before the real abuse starts actually begins with excess touching maybe not enough to say for sure it's wrong but they definitely touch you more. And they build it up slowly over time to get you used to it so it doesn't seem like a big thing when they touch you somewhere else.
Kissing a child on the lips particularly when it's not your own child is weird to me also.
Trust your gut honey. It is FAR better to be safe than sorry paricularly when it comes to this sort of thing.
In any case he's acting inappropriately if it makes you uncomfortable. I know it would make me very uneasy.
Yeah I would be very wary - I agree even if he's not a pedophile, not having or understanding normal boundaries with children would be enough for me to be very wary.
I have an uncle who is awesome with kids, he's always picking up, tackling, cuddling & tickling my younger cousins. He takes a couple of my younger cousins camping alone most summer holidays. He has 1 child himself, 3 step children & 1 baby on the way. But never had any feeling he's anything more than just someone who loves kids.
I think the actions you describe don't necessarily mean anything BUT that you've even raised the question is enough that I'd say be careful. Go with your gut.
He sounds like my Uncle.
He was like this with all of his nieces and nephews, and tries it now on our children. He's never had kids of his own, never really had a long-term relationship, is really just a bit weird, etc. I have no idea if he'd ever molest a child or any such thing, or perhaps doesn't understand barriers... but either way, I am not comfortable with my child spending time with him. The only time she's seen him is when we've been at a big family get-together, and I keep close by and away from him. I don't want her to feel uncomfortable like I know I, and many of my cousins, did as children when he'd spend his time tickling us endlessly.
I think it's better to be cautious and perhaps deny them a relationship with a perfectly harmless man, than to ignore your instincts and discover your feelings were there for a reason.
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