Hi All - hoping for some advice here.
I realise that everyone has different priorities. Last night I asked for help from DH with Miss 2, she was getting restless and I was in the last 2 minutes of making stirfry. She took off with the bottle of soy sauce and proceeded to pour it over the floor and then wet her pants (normal with her toilet training at the moment). I had to turn off dinner and clean it all up. DH had disassembled a bed and was taking the pieces outside for the collection. As far as I was concerned this could wait until later (the disassembled room is still all over the house this morning).
This ended up in an argument - I said that he was off doing whatever he wanted and not seeing the reality of what was really going on here - he threw it back at me and basically said the same in return. He said the wood could fall over and be dangerous - why not just put the wood down on the floor so it couldn't fall further and come and help?
We have ongoing issues with this - he accuses me of wanting everything done 'according to my timeframes' but I just prioritise things according to what DD needs (ie dinner, bath etc). The house could be a mess but burning all of our CD's onto a hard drive is his priority number one. If she's having a bedtime meltdown and DH is watching something on TV he just moves closer and turns up the volume "lalalalalala I can't hear you therefore it's not happening" kind of thing.
I have tried to say that it's not my timeframes but hers that I'm trying to accommodate (I don't really have much 'me' time, just work, home and DD) whereas he has plenty of his sports (3+ sessions per week), plus going to the footy etc that I work meal times etc around.
How do I get him to see where I'm coming from? I'm tearing my hair out and just in tears constantly?
Thanks for listening xx