I think it's rude...
I'm a hairdresser and one weekend I was doing hair for a bridal party and the bride. The bride was a client of mine and she had been going through IVF for almost 2 years, they decided to put it on hold and get married ect.
Once the bride had her dress on make up done, and hair done every one was saying how lovely she was ect and her mother was crying.
then the Sister (also the MOH) decides to announce that she was 14 weeks pregnant!!! The bride just looked shocked.. All the attention shifted to the sister and it was just awkward.
At my wedding one of hubby's friend was invited, about 2 months before the wedding he got into a relationship.
I had been wondering if he would bring her along (no problems if I did, I just wanted to know for numbers sake) I had asked him about a month before the wedding of he was bring his +1 and he said no.
Any way on the day he brought her along, I was a little annoyed that he didn't let us know just out of respect, but it was 1 extra person so i let it slide.
When photo time came along he and his new girlfriend went off with the photographer and got all these photos done! Every one was saying how cute they were.. It really got to me! The photos were full on couple shots!!!
There is about the same amount of photos of us as there is of them...
I was furious at the photographer and DHs friend.
The girlfriend then had the audacity to call me a few months after and ask if I could send her all the photos of them.. I said only if she paid for prints ect an she said "can't it just be your gift to us for attending your wedding"...
I really don't understand some people...
Wow, people get really precious about their events.
I handed out birthday invites at a birthday party and a 21st. I checked a few days before with the host, they thought it was silly I had to ask.
I'm really rude I guess.
Your SIL was probably very excited, good news and plans adds to a good event, it doesn't take away. Other than the bride having IVF thing, I don't find any of the examples rude.
I agree BlissedOut, the IVF one was really insensitive but I think that would be the case whether there was a wedding or no wedding.
I also don't find any of the examples rude but I don't buy into the whole princess/my day/look at me/nobody else can have a life thing when it comes to these events.
Honestly, somebody else being happy will not take anything away from your marriage or your love for your husband, nor will it mean it's no longer your birthday, nor will it cause you any disadvantage unless you let it.
Yeah what blissed out and benji said. Wouldn't bother me. No day 'belongs' to anyone. I think it's selfish and childish to expect a whole day to be about you, whether birthday, wedding, whatever. Other people's lives don't stop just because it's 'your day'
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