Okay - so advice or opinions... I'll try to make this short!
I have this friend I've known for about 5 years...we were extremely close friends! Best friends. She was my maid of honour, her husband a groomsman and MC at our wedding. We used to do happy hours and chat almost daily. She lives 5 minutes from me. We were in church together.
Then we decided to leave the church we were in because it wasn't a good fit for us (totally separate reasons). She also decided to return to study and I encouraged and supported it, knowing it would put time pressure on her. She has three kids, we have none (yet).
anyway, for the last 18 months to 2 years she's barely given me the time of day. I've tried to repair the bridge by organising things, inviting them for dinner etc.. sent her messages saying I really miss her etc. we rarely get the return invite.
So yesterday, after removing her from facebook months ago (deciding I wasn't part of her life) she emails me. I'm not sure why - she never seems to have the time for me. So I basically email her back, saying I don't understand and how hurt I've been, especially when she didn't even call or drop by when we lost our baby last year.
She replies basically saying she's busy with her job, her three kids and her church friends, and doesn't have time for us (well that's the short version) and if I'm not happy with the occasional meet up (2-3 times per year) then we obviously can't be friends. We used to see each other 2 -3 times per month!
Anyway - I'm aware that my expectations of the relationship have probably let me down... but now I don't know what to say to still have integrity but also have peace. I want to say - since when does making new friends and forgetting the old really the honest/good/christian thing to do?? How do I now walk away without getting into it. I've accepted we're not really friends and I shouldn't have probably sent the email I did...but it's out there! and she's probably waiting for a reply!!