I really need some advice on my DS's behaviour. He is 22months and driving me insane.
About six months ago i re partnered. It took DS a little bit to adjust to him but now they get along great. DS has never had his bio father in his life and from the start it has just been he and i so i expected it to be a big change for him and was quite surprised at how he adjusted. The only thing that is a problem now is every time DP hugs me or kisses me in front of DS, he flips out and throws a brilliant toddler wobbly on the floor. As soon as we break it up, DS stops and moves onto other things.
Anyway, DP and i have decided that the time has come where we would like to start living together and have been trialing it over the past few weeks. Everything has been going really really well. DS (who was a co sleeper) has moved into his bed and out of mine and DP's room with little fuss, he adores DP and asks for him when he's at work and is always ready for cuddles from DP when he gets home. Things are really good........until the weekend comes........
DP has a son who he has every weekend. His son is 2 months younger than DS. His DS is a very calm and timid kind of kid and my DS has turned into a bully whenever he is around. If his son comes too close to my DS then DS will push him. If his son has any particular toy in his hand that my DS would usually play with during the week then he will walk up to his son, push him, and take the toy out of his hand. I can't pick up his DS because mine will flip out and scream blue murder and so on.
I started reacting to the behaviour by raising my voice to DS and removing him from the situation however it just does not seem to be sinking in with him and when ever he gets used to have this other little boy around, DP's son is back to his mums house for the week then the following weekend its like we have to start at square one again. Due to bedroom shortage, we have the two boys in the same room, however, DS causes fuss when he goes to bed so DP won't have the boys in the same room on weekends and my DS is in with us which is another inconsistency into his new routine.
I don't know what to do about the pushing and DS's territorialness. DP and i have been bickering a bit because i am so tired of seeing DS yelled at about things all the time and he's tired of seeing his son being pushed by mine and it's just a madhouse.
I could really use some advice or suggestions on how i can handle this situation if anyone can help?