Okay so my husband and I have been separated nearly a year and we have two children together, DS (4) and DD (1). DS and dad are very close but DS didn't get to bond with him because we separated when she was six weeks old.
DS has been spending equal time between the two of us and its been going really well. This arrangement has been in place for about six weeks and before that it was 3 nights a week with dad for DS and day contact for DD.
Dad contacted me last week and said he thinks DS should be spending 4 out of 7 nights a week with him as he believes he is his "primary attachment". Obviously I don't agree and I refused to increase his time with him as equal time is enough and has been going really well. DS has settled and gotten into a routine. His daycare teachers have commented about how settled and happy he is and that there has been a marked improvement.
When I refused dad has now decided he doesn't want to see them at all. If he can't spend 8 out of 14 nights a fortnight with him he doesn't want to see him at all. I just can't work it out because it doesn't make any sense to me?
What should I tell DS when he asks for his dad? Normally he calls his dad twice a day when he is with me and his dad has told me he will not answer any calls from a private number (which I have) or from my mobile number. He wants nothing to do with us on "moral grounds that its wrong".
I just don't know what to tell our little boy who is obviously so sad because he can't see his dad. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!! I am so heartbroken for our little boy because he just doesn't understand. And I am so angry at his dad for doing it to them.