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    Question For those who were involved with a Cult as a child

    All these religious threads have got me thinking.

    Has being involved with a cult in your child hood impacted on your views of religion and those that are religious?

    I was bought up in a cult as a child, I left mostly in my early twenties. I refused to have anything to do with them in my late twenties. I now refuse to allow my children to go anywhere near the "group". This will also be included in the new court orders.

    I have read the religious threads that are going on at the moment and reading them I actually felt rather yuck (can't think of a better word). While I find the discussion very interesting, it bought memories of my child hood and questioning my parents. My parents were never able to answer my questions in a way that I felt content with or that explained what I wanted to know.

    I now identify most with agnostic I guess. Although lately I have become very interested in Buddhism. I am sure once my parents find this out they will be devastated. I have listened to them go on many times about "while there is life, there is hope" and other such phrases. I find these insulting and condescending and it ****s me to be honest.

    Anyway just a thought.

    If anyone else has had experiences with a cult how do you now view the cult and religion itself?

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    I grew up in what I can only describe as a cult, at 16 I was kicked out of my parents home as I refused to be any part of their "religion" I was forced to attend meetings and the whole congregation was into forcing the young members into believing their opinions and putting them in situations where basically if you didn't do what they taught they were done with you. It was horrible and had affected my opinions in religion. I like you have found myself fairly interested in Buddhism but I am still skeptical about any religions.

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    I entered as cult as a mid/late teen and spent several years following their screwed interpretations of the bible.

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    Very interesting thread!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ashley595 View Post
    I grew up in what I can only describe as a cult, at 16 I was kicked out of my parents home as I refused to be any part of their "religion" I was forced to attend meetings and the whole congregation was into forcing the young members into believing their opinions and putting them in situations where basically if you didn't do what they taught they were done with you. It was horrible and had affected my opinions in religion. I like you have found myself fairly interested in Buddhism but I am still skeptical about any religions.
    I am so sorry you went through that I can not believe people who put a so called "religion" before their children and family!

    The one I grew up in sounds very similar. We were forced to go to meetings and gatherings that went for a few days at a time also. When I stopped going and left my ex the majority of my extended family no longer talk to me. I must say my parents have surprised me!

    I grew up with no tv, not allowed to wear pants, no make up or jewellery. I was discouraged from having friends who were not a part of the church. I was told meeting after meeting if you don't go to meetings and follow "The Way" then you will go to hell.

    The best thing I ever did was get away, I am determined to never let my children anywhere near that cult.

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    Wow, I am so sorry for what you have been through.

    I'm sorry that the recent threads have brought it all back up for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cheerilee View Post

    I grew up with no tv, not allowed to wear pants, no make up or jewellery. I was discouraged from having friends who were not a part of the church. I was told meeting after meeting if you don't go to meetings and follow "The Way" then you will go to hell.

    The best thing I ever did was get away, I am determined to never let my children anywhere near that cult.
    This is the same as DH's upbringing.

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    It's a terrible thing to have to witness, I feel sorry for the poor children who are being brainwashed by it, I'm glad I refused to home school or I fear I would never have realize how truly wrong they all were

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    Wow , thank you all for sharing your stories x

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    one of the reason's i can't bring myself to trust my IL's is their religious beliefs.

    i respect their choice to follow their religion, but I don't accept that they have the right to force it or any of it's impacts on how to live life, or other things, on my family.

    Husband loves his parents obviously, it's not that they weren't loving or good parents, he didn't have a bad upbringing.

    But he and siblings were forced to live that way until they were old enough to leave.

    My husband was a teen when we met (we snuck around for months as not allowed to associate, especially romantically, with people outside their church).

    They were also forced to become 'spirit-filled'... where they speak in tongues. Apparently it's a sign god is in you, or however it works, so comes naturally and it's not something you force.

    However husband said he felt no such thing, just pretended to make the noises and praying to keep his parents happy (would have been 11 or 12 i think)

    My views against that church and it's 'rules' and things are quite strong in that my child will NEVER be involved in ANY of it, until he is at an age where he can choose for himself, while DH prob isn't as strong in his dislike, he definitely doesn't want anything to do with it or the backstabbing and false life that often accompanies it.


 

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