Quote Originally Posted by Jessca View Post
First of all huge hugs!!
Have you been given some good pain killers? It sounds like you should be on something stronger!!
My MW suggested to me if I am sitting to have a pillow under my thighs, it takes some of the pressure off but your still putting enough pressure down there not to cause prolapse.
Ice is also really helpful!! We got these long thin things you soak in water then freeze and stuff them in a pad. Feels great and really helps with the swelling!
As for going to the toilet, it's bloody scary the first time! (two weeks latee it still scares me!) You could try having high fibre foods(or taking something like benefibre or psyllium husks) or you can get a softener from the chemist called Lactulose.
Salt baths and squiring salt water all down there after going to the toilet also seems to help and can help keep infection away. (but first sign of infection get some anti biotic's ASAP!)
And drying yourself properly can be quite difficult, so if you have a hair dryer that has a cold option you can use that.
Make sure you get the visiting MW to have a look! They'll be able to tell of its healing well or getting infected.

It's hard but it does get better slowly!
The time will fly by so fast you won't even realise :-)
Everything Jessca has said here is absolutely correct!!! I'm recovering from a 4th degree tear and all the above advice was given to me by physios and doctors.

Big hugs for you. It does get better, I promise. It's now been 5 weeks for me and I almost feel normal again.