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    Quote Originally Posted by october View Post
    I don't go out yet as I'm
    Too wuss to leave my baby.
    But I honestly think that those people who can are brave and way more balanced than me
    It's a goal of mine to have more of a life
    Good on you
    They were probably asleep most of the time you were gone anyway
    I was exactly the same when both my girls were little.

    Nowadays, we live away from family, and have recently found ourselves a wonderful babysitter. BLISS!

    OP, try not to let it get to you. There is more than one way to be a parent. I've seen lots of your posts and there is no denying how much you love your kids!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by elleandsam View Post
    Something very similar happened to me recently. I went to soundwave, had an awesome time, left at 10am got home just before midnight, the children had a fab time with their grandparents and I came home to two content sleeping children. I saw some great bands, spent some quality time with my husband I figured all was above board.

    And it was to everyone except one uptight mole. We use to go to gigs a lot when we were younger and now we both have children. I still love all the things I use to I haven't let having children change who I am. She has. Apparently heavy metal and music festivals are inappropriate for mothers and I abandoned my children for my own selfish needs.

    It was the first time I'd ever gone anywhere without first putting DS to bed. We'd gone out twice before that after 7pm and only ever for a few hours with the exception of new years when we came home at 2am to a screaming baby. We don't have babysitters or family nearby to regularly go out.

    She's been telling anyone who will listen how awful I am for going to soundwave, no one is yet to agree with her.
    Man I wish I had of gone to sound wave wanted to go to Manson too but was broke :-( I was told I'm a bad mum for having my kids baby sat over night n going to see a band cause I didn't know what time I was Gunna get home Asked them if they would have preferred I took kids with me to gig n pub they soon shuttup

    I'd tell her to go jump n just because your a mother doesn't mean you have to lose who u are and what u like omg. I sound so selfish :-P

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    Yes, I know where you are coming from.. I have a close relative who sometimes (if not most of the time), tries to make a problem out of nothing.

    So I was hosting dinner, for all of my family, and out of nowhere she comes up to me and asks me if I am depressed, and how she went to a mental healt,h seminar... Blah.. She feels very strong about what she is saying,, blah blah blah, and then has the nerve to say to me (the hostess, domestic goddess wannabe), that I am depressed and that I take it out on everyone else.
    I am the last person on the planet that will take out my problems on someone else... Including Bubhub.com.au. Lol I'm just kidding. Yes, it was abit over the top, I figured that my life must have been too perfect in her eyes, and I needed to have sh*t rubbed in, because apparently I had anxiety a few years ago. Yes, I had anxiety a few years ago, when I was a single mum and didn't have the best man in my life, or a nice house to live in.
    Sorry rambling here, but yeah.. A few days later she said to me via a text message that I am her best friend and that she loves me. She is my sister, and I feel constantly like I can't have a conversation with her without her feeling like she is being judged, or someone is stepping on her toes. I have had enough of listening to her sad uni life stories of how hard it is to study, and how long she stayed up all night, when I stay up most nights till 1am, because hubby and I just can't fall asleep after long days with work, kids, and study aswell.
    Yeah, I have vented out alot on this website. *blush*

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    Sorry, yes as some people have said above, having a babysitter or childcare or whoever else for that matter... Does NOT mean that you are a bad mum, it DOES mean that you are comfortable making other arrangements that you are perfectly comfortable with..., That you have THOUGHT THROUGH carefully, and in this process are showing your kids how to be "normal"

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    Quote Originally Posted by october View Post
    I don't go out yet as I'm
    Too wuss to leave my baby.
    But I honestly think that those people who can are brave and way more balanced than me
    It's a goal of mine to have more of a life
    Good on you
    They were probably asleep most of the time you were gone anyway
    Well said, I agree. I would like to go out to more gigs, my fiance plays in gigs alot, and it's hard to find babysitters sometimes. Though this is probably just my feeble minded, tunnelled vision, because of not being confident enough to go out and ask someone else to watch the kiddies, even though I have used alot of childcare for my kiddies in the past. It's more of a "not bothered" enough approach, which needs to be changed. I get tired at the end of the day, and yes it's alot better to be balanced with your life. :P

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    Yep..i have a friend who told me that in three years she hasn't "wanted"to spend a night away from her child...in response to when i said i was going away for three days to visit a relative soon going to vineyards, out to dinner, sleeping in ( yes omg sleeping whopp whopp) and god forbid was looking forward to it it was kinda like oh whats wrong with you , your a bad mum im SO attached to MY child etc etc etc attitude....meh she was just jealous for various reasons....its probably the thing i hate MOST about becoming a parent...other parents!

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    Sounds like a one upper!
    I had this happen the first time I left my baby when he was 3 months old (it was only for 2 hours with my mum lol) and a bishy woman said to me "oh he is so young, I didn't leave my babies until they were at least 18 months!"
    Good for you is all I can say to that!
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