my ex has a huge range of mental health problems... (divorced 2 years)
he rings all the time (yet if I need to contact him about the children or ask when he's visiting them he won't answer text or phone calls).. I've been keeping a log the last week and he's called nearly every day.. most calls are just him needing somebody to speak to.. others are more aggrivating (wanting to move back in, wanting to rent a house in my townhouse complex, lies about getting large sums of money and wanting to buy a house for me).. meanwhile he's told me he only wants to see the children once a week but then he still hasn't been able to stick to those visitations..
He rang late last night (while I was about to go to sleep.. I don't sleep well anyway) and told me he'd been sectioned.. when I asked what he was talking about he rambled on and on and said he's in a safe house (so he hasn't been sectioned? is that a lie?), then said he missed the kids and wanted to see them today (thursday).. he is a pathalogical liar and a prescription drug addict..
he's out of my life.. I only have to see him for 5 minutes when he chooses to turn up on sundays (he said he can't come this sunday because he's been sectioned... lie?)... but I can't deal with the constant mental manipulation and phone calls... he throws this stuff out there like 'I don't want to see the kids during the week' or 'I'm having a breakdown' or 'I've been sectioned' he's just so messed up.. I try really hard not to be drawn into his messed up world.. I'm getting better at just saying 'fine.. you won't see the kids sunday... speak to you later' and I have to pretty much hang up because he won't stop talking..
I feel this is a form of mental abuse tbh... the calls, waving money in my face (he was abused as a child and reckons he's getting a pay out from the catholic church.. all of which is probably a lie).. last week my car was flooding from the rain and I was really stressed about the cost of getting it fixed.. then he phones and starts the conversation off with 'I just have one quick question for you.. do you want me to give you money for a car or a deposit on a house?'... he's mental and he's stressing me out.. I've put the phone down but he's so messed up that if you get short with him or firm he carries on worse than before will phone calls and texts 'what's wrong with you? why are you mean to me?' etc.. I can't win. I can't get rid of him. I can't deal with him. I can't screen his calls (he sometimes rings as Private but some of my friends come up as Private as well and why the hell should I stop answer my phone!)... is there anything I do? restraining order re phone calls/texts/emails? I just think that will make him worse...