I'm a little emotional right now so please don't be too hard.
DD stayed at EX's for one night on the weekend and he told me that she didn't want to go to bed so he let her stay up and fall asleep on the lounge.
I wasn't too happy with this as I didn't want him letting her set her own routine and form bad bed time habits. However as it was only one night we talked and I said to just make sure that when he started taking her for his full days, to make sure he be the parent and set the rules and basically gently guide her to follow routine, noting that he may just have to persist with nursing her, in her room, by the cot, to help her settle and adjust.
He called me just after 8 tonight when she should have been well and truly asleep an tells me she's still awake. And that he wasn't really doing anything about it. Just that before he went to put her to bed and changed her nappy, she cried and bolted from the room.
I know him and that he would choose whatever option is easier for him, ie letting her just stay up and play and then fall asleep watching tv then he can put her to bed.
I dont know if he will do this again tonight or if he will just wait say, 15 mins then try bed again but the fact that he didn't try and settle her in her room and stay with her to get her to bed bothers me.
I'm just worried that he's going to take the easy way out every time and that because he's let her do it once, she will keep playing him to get what she wants and I worry it will set bad sleeping patterns for both there and here at home with me.
Returning to work full time, I won't be able to cope if she plays up for me.
Anyway, I still haven't heard back from him so am not yet sure whats happening and I'm just a little bit worried about it all.
So is it a big deal or should I let him do whatever he wants, even if it means ruining her sleeping behavior and therefore being of no benefit to her, or should I ignore it and hope it doesn't ruin things?
*sigh* it's just hard and I don't know how to cope yet so if you think I'm over stressing for nothing, please tell me in a nice way and maybe offer ways I can get over it, if that's what I need to do.
I just want what's best for DD and want things to be as normal for her as possible and worry that he won't necessarily do that.
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