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    Default FAMILLY VENT... feel free to join me.

    im 39 weeks pregnant and for the last 3 WHOLE WEEKS my familly have been texting, calling and facebooking me to ask if i have had the baby. IM SOOOOO OVER IT!!!

    my cousin just fbed me and asked me if i had bub then i say no and she said have you tried the sex thing every one is talking about. it wasnt even a private msg it was written on my wall for EVERYONE to see.
    yeah i want ALL my friends and familly to know about my sex life... or the lack of

    what i mean to say is they dont trust me to tell them when i have had bub. its like they think that im going to not tell them for weeks or something.

    not only is it annoying the amout of messages and calls im getting from them, but its bringing me down. i feel really down and depressed.

    they never really took much interest in me before so why now.

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    I know how you feel! Same thing happened to me

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    Same thing happened to me.
    It was just one acquaintance though so I just said 'yep. A week ago. It's a girl'
    She left me alone once she thought she was the first to know lol!

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    Could it be that it is their first neice/grandchild etc? maybe they are excited... but if they are getting you down, just tell them once and for all you will let them know and be firm about it, and leave it at that.. I had the same thing with my dd and after a while i couldn't be bothered answering the phone or replying to text. lol. But anyways, all the best with your upcoming birth.

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    I'd be telling them you are turning off your phone until the baby is born. I'd also change your FB settings so no one can post on your wall. If they ask why, be honest - the constant questioning is getting out of control and you want a relaxed last weeks of your pregnancy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Braxtonsmummy View Post
    Same thing happened to me.
    It was just one acquaintance though so I just said 'yep. A week ago. It's a girl'
    She left me alone once she thought she was the first to know lol!

    lol very tempting.

    Quote Originally Posted by waterlily View Post
    I know how you feel! Same thing happened to me
    so annoying

    i dont mind being asked once by people who have not spoken to me for a while but being asked numerous times a day is just a bit much.

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    Ohhh I hated when my mum and family and friends did that. Was only my friends and family. DP didnt care I dont think they were more relaxed...

    Always so many suggestions on what will help. Gets a bit to much. I always told them it will come with its ready (I use 'It' because we didnt know the babies sex yet lol).

    Got so crazy towards the end on the way home from a family dinner my mother was driving she went along a road with speed bumps in hope that would help get DD1 out. OMG it was so uncomfortable, but didnt help.


    Was even to the point I was in labour with DD1. And no one had heard from me that day (for obvious reasons...I WAS BUSY!!!!) and I have soooo many missed calls from friends and family. All of them leaving messages to. Not only one message but several each. Lots of text messages asking about if I had the baby, am I ok.

    My mother then turned up and saw me having contractions then she called DP mother and she came around to help (shes a gp) and I just wanted to be left alone till I was ready to go to hospital.

    Worse of ALL... I didnt get to announce and share the first photo of baby with my friends on fb. My mother did! She stole MY special moment.

    So yea.... feeling your frustration with it all! lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Minchi View Post
    Could it be that it is their first neice/grandchild etc? maybe they are excited... but if they are getting you down, just tell them once and for all you will let them know and be firm about it, and leave it at that.. I had the same thing with my dd and after a while i couldn't be bothered answering the phone or replying to text. lol. But anyways, all the best with your upcoming birth.
    yeah it is the first granchild and neice. i get their excitement but it just too much for me to handle. if i tell them not to ask me they wont talk to me again or get really upset and chuck a tanty until i apologise or something. as much as im ok with that i want bub to have involvement in their lives. not much i can do about it unless i want conflict. they messaged the other day and since then i havent replied, when i finally answer i will make up some excuse for it. thanks

    Quote Originally Posted by Von Zipper View Post
    I'd be telling them you are turning off your phone until the baby is born. I'd also change your FB settings so no one can post on your wall. If they ask why, be honest - the constant questioning is getting out of control and you want a relaxed last weeks of your pregnancy.
    im trying to figure out how to change the settings on fb so i can do that. i forgot to do it earlier... which was silly of me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Missemzy View Post
    Ohhh I hated when my mum and family and friends did that. Was only my friends and family. DP didnt care I dont think they were more relaxed...

    Always so many suggestions on what will help. Gets a bit to much. I always told them it will come with its ready (I use 'It' because we didnt know the babies sex yet lol).

    Got so crazy towards the end on the way home from a family dinner my mother was driving she went along a road with speed bumps in hope that would help get DD1 out. OMG it was so uncomfortable, but didnt help.


    Was even to the point I was in labour with DD1. And no one had heard from me that day (for obvious reasons...I WAS BUSY!!!!) and I have soooo many missed calls from friends and family. All of them leaving messages to. Not only one message but several each. Lots of text messages asking about if I had the baby, am I ok.

    My mother then turned up and saw me having contractions then she called DP mother and she came around to help (shes a gp) and I just wanted to be left alone till I was ready to go to hospital.

    Worse of ALL... I didnt get to announce and share the first photo of baby with my friends on fb. My mother did! She stole MY special moment.

    So yea.... feeling your frustration with it all! lol
    woa hugs for you. i would be so MAD if anyone announced the birth before i did. i have told dh for that reaon that i will be putting a disclamer on the bottom of the message i will send them to not tell anyone i have had the baby untill we have had the chance... and to not post photos.

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    It drove me nuts cos I live so far away from friends and family. It got so bad I ended up sending a txt to everyone saying that no I hadn't had her yet, yes, we have a system in place so you will know straight away and to please stop asking as the added stress is the last thing I need right now. I felt a bit guilty once I sent it but it made them realize that is wasn't just them calling all the time and they backed off... Except for mum, the calls every two hours kept coming first time grandma!


 

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