We are having some major problems with anger in my ds1. He is 3.5 and I don't understand how he can be so angry. It like a switch flicks and he goes crazy. Hitting, pinching, yelling and he just can not control himself. Nothing works to calm him down.
Generally it starts by hurting his brother and I ask him nicely to say sorry, use your words, don't retaliate etc.. We just had a 20 minute meltdown because I asked him to say sorry. At the moment i deal with it by taking him to his room and letting him lie on his bed while i sit with him and tell him he can come out when he stops being angry. This morning I had to 'bear hug'him so he wouldn't hurt me.
The other day he hit me in the face at my parents house because I said he couldn't have anymore sauce, and followed with a major meltdown.
I don't know where Im going wrong? Or of this is normal 3.5 year old behavior? Any suggestions, thoughts would be very much appreciated.