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    Into a bully?

    I was cooking dinner tonight and could hear DH playing with 16 month old DS who was laughing hysterically so I went in to see what was so funny, DS would walk past the bean bag and DH would " push" him over so he fell on it which he thought was the best thing, then he made DH crawl past and he would push him over which made him laugh even more! It was funny to watch but then I panicked thinking will this make him too rough or am I just over analyzing ? How does your DH play with your sons?

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    My 18 month old DD loves being "pushed" back onto the lounge cushions, she giggles her eyes out! But she is a rough kid so maybe us being rough with her hasn't helped that?

    Although she doesn't push, but she is big on hitting ATM!!

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    No. I think bullying is more likely to stem from physical abuse to gain power or to simply torment the smaller or weaker party. For example if your DH was pushing your son over and he was crying but he was continuing to do it because he could then I could understand the chance of your DS becoming a bully in the future would increase. He might learn this behaviour from his father and continue it.
    Your DH and DS are playing a fun game and bonding, both are laughing and enjoying themselves and no one is suffering. Your son will most likely equate fun with both parties enjoying themselves, whether it be rough housing or playing a board game.
    Your DH and DS obviously have a very special father-son bond and you should definitely encourage it further and don't stress.

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    No its good for them to "play fight" I believe anyway. Its a nice way to play physically and test out their limits and strengths etc. I used to love play fighting with my dad. Ds loves it too. Its normal and healthy. All baby animals seem to love it too heh its adorable in my opinion and not harmful

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    I'm pretty sure "rough-housing" is a GOOD thing.

    DS loves DH throwing pillows at him.

    My dad was always rough playing with us, and I think it was great! So long as everyone is having fun.

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    we rough and tumble play here, ones a bit of a bully, one is the furthest thing from a bully... but we play with them the same. so it depends on the child.

    We just talk about whats playing and what is 'too rough'

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    I think some rough play is good at teaching them boundaries (so when one person says stop you stop and/or you don't continue so that the party is hurt, you're just getting enjoyment out of playing around).

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    I've often wondered the same thing.

    My DH plays a lot of rough and tumble type games with DS (16 months) and DS LOVES it. He is always in absolute hysterics whilst DH whacks him with a pillow or tackles him to the ground. I don't really get it at all but I just laugh and leave them to it. Guess it's just a boy thing!

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    We have spent the last 6 months seeing an occupational therapist with my 6 year old ds (for various reasons) but she really encourages the rough play as it helps build up muscles etc

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    Df has always played 'rough' with jasper (I've learnt a long time ago to just not watch cos I keep thinking they'll hurt each other!!!) even biting each other, df encourages jasper to hit, push, body slam. It's full on WWE stuff.

    But jasper is so gentle with other children, usually gentle with me (he does keep pushing and climbing on my belly trying to get close to me, poor thing!)

    Really I don't think it's made a difference. I used to worry he'd learn it was okay and then do it at daycare or with friends kids, but he seems to really understand that it's just him & daddy who play rough.

    But sometimes when df is asleep jasper body slams him... Df only has himself to blame

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