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    Default Birthday Present ?? Is this rude or is it just me? LOL !!

    So Dp got a text from his dad saying I have camera on lay by on at so and so and can we go put $$$ on it for him instead of a gift

    Now normally, we ask Dp's mum if there is anything that the dad would like or needs for his birthday before we go out and buy something for him.

    This year, we hadn't spoken to MIL about it and before we knew it 4 weeks before his Birthday he sent us this text.

    When my Dp told me, I just laughed as I thought he was joking. I made some joke about having a lay by on at Big W and can he go pay that off

    Anyway, it wouldnt of bothered me if we had asked MIL and she replied with the idea, but to message himself asking I think is quite rude.

    I actually would love it if everyone pitched in and bought something big and fantastic for dd, dp or myself but it seems so un-personal to me

    Am I the only one who thinks this ???

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    I don't know..
    I see your point but he really might think thats all he wants and so
    was being helpful.
    I am sure he knows you always ask, so this way it solves the problem.


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    I don't really think its rude I would rather get them something they want/need or put money towards something that cost a bit

    This year my family are giving me money towards my layby (getting a braclet )
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    Maybe it would have been less rude coming from your MIL, but he was probably just trying to be helpful.

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    yeah im thinking he knows you always ask so may as well tell yous while he remember.

    i dont think it was rude at all

    now if it was someone else & different situation then yes it can definitely be very rude. but not as it is.

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    I honestly wouldn't mind- I'd rather put money towards something I know someone really wants

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    I'm kinda on the fence. Yes and no for being rude.

    I like to get people what they want and usually always ask but to just be told would annoy me.
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    It sounds like it is something he is really keen on getting. Personally, I would be fine with the suggestion as it is something he really wants.

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    I find it more awkward when they don't want anything. My FIL gets angry when we do get him something... So I would much prefer he message us telling us he'd put something he really wanted on layby!

    I don't find it rude at all... would take the stress out of buying something that you don't really know if they want or not, who cares if they say it or MIL.

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    We actually hardly ever hear from MIL or FIL. Only when HIS birthday comes up. Not very close at all to be honest, which I dislike greatly but they make no effort. And I'm sick of trying. Dp just isnt that close to his parents

    It's only been once or twice that we asked MIL, what she thought. Prob should of made that clearer

    But I'm still quite shocked that it came out of no where. But I do understand that he doesn't want any old crap and rather money went towards a new camera.


    Just wish it came from MIL at least


 

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