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    Default What comes first mediation or financial settlement?

    Hi,

    I am 32.5 weeks pregnant with a ds 4 year old as well. I would really like to start the mediation part of our separation as my ex is giving me h*ll and it would make things easier to plan for the future. He is trying to bully me into taking a newborn for sleepovers! He thinks i'm being a bish and won't listen to me when I say that newborn sleepovers is unrealistic. He has our ds on a Tuesday night for a sleepover and has been having him on a Saturday night too- unless my ex is 'tired'. His work means that from now until October he won't be able to have ds every Saturday but maybe able to do a Friday or a Sunday night or miss the weekend sleepover altogether. He is angry that I want something definite and feels I should be flexible. I can work at home some nights and I have always put his work first but now I need to work as much as possible hence the need for set nights. Its no longer my responsibility to work around him to my own financial detriment.

    Can I do mediation first? It's exhausting dealing with him and I am hoping mediation will help him see that newborns need to be with their mums.

    Any help would be great.

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    My mediation had a course which showed what was realistic in terms of contact and the ages of the children.

    Call them now and set it up, I used Relationships Australia. PM me if you want to know more about my experience.

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    You can mediate on both issues. Guess you need to decide if the care arrangements are the bigger issue or if you need the financial stuff sorted first to get set up in a new home?

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    If your bf you could push it back to no sleep overs for two years

    GL

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