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    My libido got pushed out along with a screaming baby that never slept 3yrs ago lol. Till this day she doesnt sleep well.
    So bye bye libido was nice knowing you. *sigh*

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    I'm glad I'm not alone. Unfortunately my libido was non existent before DS but I fear it will never improve considering the new stretch marks on my bum and thighs and 6 kilos I still need to shed. It's almost impossible to feel sexy but I guess guys don't seem to care about this and just the sex part?

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    I feel exactly the same. I've tried just sucking it up and doing it and at the time it's good but I feel like I am just doing it to please DH then when it's over I am not interested again for ages. It kind of feels like a chore that I should do but don't really want to. But I think it's a combination of things, a lot to do with not feeling attractive, why would he want to touch it let alone look at it coz I don't even want to look at it in the mirror... or ... I just have to much other stuff to get done coz I'm really thinking about what needs to be done once it's over... Or ... I'm annoyed that I have to do everything around the house and than that as well, where's my weekend or sleep in. Don't get me wrong I love DS he's a wonderful baby but a hand with some of the boring stuff would be nice and maybe then I'd be in the mood?? Who knows. Good luck if it's a big concern maybe talk to your Dr about it. Sounds extream but it happens more often than you think and they might be able to suggest something.

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    If it's that bad then you should visit your GP and request a blood test to check your thyroid and see if there is perhaps a hormone imbalance that is effecting your libido.

    I did a couple of months ago and turns out I have Hashimotos Disease which has caused my thyroid to become under active which effected my libido among other things.
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    Bumping this old thread. Interested to hear any other people with this same issue.

    My baby is only 5 weeks old and I'm wondering why I don't think of having sex much. Even during the pregnancy it probably only averaged once a month.

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    It's really common to have a low libido after child birth due to the oestrogen levels plummeting in order for the body to be able to breastfeed and if you continue to breastfeed they remain low. Oestrogen also helps with vaginal lubrication as well, so even though you may still be ok 'arousal' wise, you may find you're a bit dry down below.

    For me, I struggle with getting out of 'Mummy mode' and into 'sexual being mode' and this can effect my libido too, not to mention the demands of child rearing and especially when you have a newborn and you're feeding around the clock and tending to them. I've also found when I am anemic my libido's not crash hot either. Ahhh, the joys of being a woman hey!

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    I don't have a libido. Poor DH

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    Libido? What's that? Never had one either, and any I may have had totally disappeared with ivf, pregnancy and sleep deprivation with bub!

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    Me too, no interest. Not exactly sure how I got pregnant

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    My obstetrician also told me that bf'ing not only affects lubrication, but libido as well.

    I'm struggling too, as I considered myself as a very sexual person (would have been happy with it every day!), however since having bub, I now have almost zero libido AND a minor bladder prolapse making me 'bulge' a bit down there (sorry if TMI!). Hubby says that it looks and feels the same, and has been very understanding, but I can't get my headspace past the fact that my hoo hoo really isn't 'sexy' anymore.

    I've also heard that more sex and orgasms help boost libido - and I had an erotic dream the other night, so that let me know that a big part of my decreased libido is psychological, too.

    I, too, feel guilty that even tho I can orgasm n 'kinda' get in the moment, I find myself often just helping hubby 'finish' so it's over n done with - something I NEVER considered before!

    I'm planning on bf'ing for a lil while longer so I guess I just have to deal with it for a lil while longer


 

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