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    Default Very low libido! Am I the only one? What can I do to improve it?

    I have always had a low libido, even before having DS who is 10 weeks old. I'm not on any meds and can't blame contraceptives. I wish so much that I could be more 'normal' in this department. I really feel for my DH because I know how much it affects him. We'd be lucky to DTD a couple times a month....anyone else the same or does anyone have suggestions???
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    Sorry posted in wrong section

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    Im the exact same unfortunatley which is annoying because we are ttc number 2 sorry I dont have advice but youre certaintly not alone

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    You're not alone, my libido is almost non existent.

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    Its not just you!! Mine is MIA at the moment too. Mine is a bit more of a mental problem though because I used to be very active in that department. Ive gained a bit of weight and developed some stretch marks on my belly which makes me feel really ugly and my self-confidence has plummeted so thats got a lot to do with mine I think. I dont really know how to fix it apart from trying to think positive and do my best to get healthy again.

    Ive read that the more frequently you have an orgasm the more you want it..and that the best way to overcome some problems with libido is to masturbate regularly. Could be worth a try? I know that when I was a bit younger the way I viewed my lady parts effected my libido. (I thought my va-jay-jay was the ugliest thing Id ever seen) DP helped me fix that problem though

    Maybe just try and think about what might be causing your problem and see if you can fix it? Otherwise I know of women whove had the same problem and went and talked to their doctor/gyno about it. Good luck hun!

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    I use to be very sexually active with my husband then we fell pregnant with #1 I was sick and uncomfortable sex was non existent, it never really recovered we have sex once a week at least but nothing compared to our normal now I pregnant with #2 and sick again and sex is again non existent! I always thought your libido was suppose I go up with pregnant? Although organisms are much much much more intense when I'm pregnant I found that even if I wasn't 100% into it and wasn't keen on it, but I did it for him But when i got into it and was more into it then him by then end...

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    Definitely not alone, I have never been very interested in dtd, we do it maybe once or twice a month.

    i feel it is a mental struggle with myself. I am very overweight and have zero body confidence, but DP seems to still want it. I don't know how anyone could find me attractive let alone when naked. My body is wrecked from pregnancy. Huge flabby belly covered COVERED in stretch marks. 40kg over weight.

    I remember back when I felt good about myslef (2004 maybe?) i useed to buy and wear sexy lingerie. That certainly can help you feel sexy and therefore want sex.

    I tried watching porn and it did turn me on but I just felt disgusting afterwards for having been turned on by it!

    but back to the mental battle, I think we need to be more like men, don't think about it, don't over analyse it, just touch your partner, have him touch you and focus on how it feels, nothing else.

    Easier said than done, I think about everything when DTD. The shopping, the baby, whether my tummy looks flattering from this angle, whether my chin is tucked in too much and giving me double chin, whether DP is thinking I about someone else... its a minefield. I try to block out those stupid thoughts and think like a man!

    Or just get drunk

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    I too have a very low libido. I have never actually orgasmed!!!!! We would dtd 1-2 per month too, except for when ttc. I feel that it has no purpose other than to make a baby I wish I didn't feel like this but don't know how to improve the situation. The first three words that come to my mind when I think about sex are - yuck, gross, disgusting! My husband is very supportive but I feel terrible all the time! I have a good body so I know it isn't the not feeling attractive thing (hope that doesn't sound vain) but I truly think I don't produce enough of the hormones needed to have a good sex drive. I have been to doctors and apart from taking testosterone there isnt much i can do about it. Glad to hear i'm not alone

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    My DP is like this I want to dtd heaps but he dose not want to it can be hard at times I think for us its the age gap between us he is 16yrs older then me and I am at that age were I want it every sec day we are luck if it once a week tho.


 

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