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    Totally agree with you, and I'm feeling exactly the same way. Misled and deceived...

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    Hi there ladies,

    It's been ages since I posted on this thread, and I want to let you all know what wonderful and strong women I think you are, and how I feel for all of you on your own individual, extremely challenging, roller coaster rides.

    I think it is irresponsible of your surgeons to 'sugar coat' your results like that, and I am sad to say that we had a similar experience with our VR, which was done in 2011. We got absolutely no follow up care whatsoever the impression we got was, we had had the surgery, he'd collected his fee, and that was that. We had to hound and hound the practice secretary to even have a SA post op, which was at 6 months!!! When the results came back - count was low (2 million) and motility was 15% but all he said was, "there's sperm - so it's all good", we went six months without any further SA or follow up.

    The one thing we did do, is have a plan, if we didn't get pregnant - for our sanity and for the sake of the clock ticking. We decided we would give it a year, and of we weren't pregnant naturally we would try IVF - I figured there was no point in wasting time where my fertility was concerned (I was 33).

    It wasn't until we saw a FS, that we had the next SA done (our second ever) where we found out my husband had a count of 100,000 and close to zero motility she was convinced that there wasn't even enough to do ICSI, and to add insult to injury, the surgeon had not frozen any sperm at the time of surgery, which I am sure we had requested

    I can't tell you how devastated I was. After going through a VR, and having to admit that it hadn't worked, now we were looking at ICSI with TESA - which I was told was much more painful than a VR.

    This is, however, a story with a happy ending. On the day of egg retrieval, hubby was able to produce a sample which had enough live sperm to use, and for ICSI - it really doesn't matter if they swim or not, and we went on to conceive our DD (who is now a happy, healthy 18 month old) on our fresh cycle we also have 3 frosties in cold storage - so it's back to the clinic for us very soon.

    There is hope, and for those of us without female fertility problems, we have good chances at ICSI success, because essentially, our fertility issues are largely mechanical, not genetic or gynaecological. If your husband has produced healthy children, and you have too, or have no existing fertility issues, there is not reason to believe ICSI wouldn't work.

    The hardest part for me was letting go of the desperate wish to conceive naturally. Once I had grieved that loss, and decided that I wanted a baby more than I wanted to conceive naturally, I was able to move forward. Also, having a time bound plan, with next steps also made it easier to let go.

    I wish you ladies all the best, so many out there don't understand how brave we all are, and how trying this process is, especially for those of us who don't already have children of our own.

    Big Hugs!
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    Oh moomoo79 I could hug you! There's nothing like some no nonsense advice from someone who has been through your situation, and also what a fantastic end result! Congratulations!!

    I'm saddened though to see that a lot of us have similar complaints about our surgeons procedures. Once we have our second SA results we are definitely calling to discuss our concerns with our surgeon and his staff. It's extremely negligent to withhold information and give false hope! In fact it could be the difference between a baby, or no baby!

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    @moomoo79 your story gives me so much hope! Congratulations on your bub!

    I was exactly the same with the whole wanting to conceive naturally! (Funny isn't it? You think if you get your baby, it doesn't matter how right?) but it took me a long time to admit it wasn't going to happen that way. I'm now looking forward to my FET in 3 weeks. I hope I have a happy ending to add then also xoxo

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    Quote Originally Posted by StillHopeful������ View Post
    @moomoo79 your story gives me so much hope! Congratulations on your bub!

    I was exactly the same with the whole wanting to conceive naturally! (Funny isn't it? You think if you get your baby, it doesn't matter how right?) but it took me a long time to admit it wasn't going to happen that way. I'm now looking forward to my FET in 3 weeks. I hope I have a happy ending to add then also xoxo
    All the best StillHopeful!!! I've got my fingers and toes crossed for you.

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    @moomoo79

    I've come back to read this so many times... The whole getting over the need to conceive naturally. That is so on point.

    We are at this path at the moment. Seriously considering leaving our failed VR as it is and waiting a little while and doing IVF. I originally thought it was failing..... but it isn't. The desire of having children far exceeds my desire not to use IVF.

    Thank you for your honest advice x

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    How are we going in here ladies
    no luck for me xxxx

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    Hi Felicia,

    We take DF sample in on Thurs this week for 1st analysis post VR, fingers crossed! Has your DH had his scan yet?

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    Hi Felicia,

    Had a scan today and transfer of our only frostie scheduled for a week. I'm so scared it won't work and it will be back to worrying about sperm.

    How are you, did you see Dr Lekich yet?

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    Hi ladies - exciting time ahead I hope SA result is great @onedaymaybebaby update if you can
    no scan as yet life gotten busy
    sold house and buying and building- scan next month know - I'm still not pregnant... @StillHopeful best of luck hun I wish you all the very best - let us know how you go - hugs

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