So after resolving to only have one child since DS’s birth & convincing DH that I couldn’t possibly handle another baby, I can’t believe it, but I am starting to feel clucky & have a desire for a second baby! How on earth am I going to bring it up with him after we discussed not having anymore for so long?! He’ll think I’ve lost the plot!!
DH & I currently have a beautiful 2.5 year old DS who is an absolute delight! He was a very content baby & as a toddler is also very easy going. But for some reason I’m finding the decision to start TTC #2 a lot more difficult than it was to have him.
My biggest concerns are:
a) Finances – we probably won’t be able to send them to private schools (something I really wanted for my children), we won’t be able to afford nice family holidays, we won’t be able to buy a second house (as an investment) & won’t be able to afford other activities, luxuries, etc. I don’t know, but is a second child really such a financial burden?
b) Myself – I had a traumatic birth with DS which took me a long time to get over & I am very afraid of a similar experience. I also had mild depression prior to DS but it became much worse, probably PND, after I had him. DH helped me get through it, but it is something that still arises from time to time. Also, can I truly handle another baby with a toddler?!
My biggest fear is that in a few years I will regret not having a second baby, especially when my friends eventually marry & start their families.
I wouldn’t normally post such a significant life question on an online forum, but I don’t know many other Mums with young children & would like to hear it from others who might have been going through the same decisions recently