A friend of mine (who was for a period in my life my best friend) texted me the afternoon before my wedding to say she wasn't going to make it as she had broken up with her boyfriend the previous week and he was going to come up to Sydney so they could talk (note, her and the boyfriend had RSVP'd that they would attend).
It was a deal breaker for our friendship. I refuse to have anything to do with her again. Had she made a phone call, or a geniune effort to apologise afterwards, things may be different.
Please anyone who gives a rats about their friend, do NOT ditch an important event in your friends life via TEXT!
An exfriend scr#wed me over, ordered her dress etc, i paid the deposit which she was going to pay me back for than decided to not answer phone calls, text etc & left me high & dry.
SIL wouldnt come cause BIL was visiting his family & she couldnt come on her own.
I don't speak to my parents anymore. My mum decided that this was her wedding, not mine and DH's so she would try and take over (even though she already got to do that with my younger sister's wedding a few years earlier).
Apparently my idea of having a small intimate backyard BBQ wedding wasn't good enough and we needed to talk about caterers even though I was happy to prepare the food and had others willing to help. She couldn't understand why I didn't want a four string quartet - um my sister had already done that and I just wanted simple. She was annoyed that I wanted to have it in our backyard or a park instead of their place (miles from everyone else we knew). Then we had discussed my DH and I paying for most things but them paying for food and IL's paying for alcohol.
So I get an email (!) from my mum saying she has started buying sparkling!!! That was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. She was trying to do what she did at my sister's wedding and take over and cause issues between the families by paying for things first before anyone even the bride could tell her not to.
I treated her the same courtesy she gave me and emailed her back telling her to back off and stop stressing me out - I was in the midst of an intensive post grad and was stressed enough without her adding to it. She then decided to email me back to say she wouldn't speak of it anymore and in fact wouldn't speak to me again.
DH and I brought the wedding forward by 11 months and had the simple wedding we wanted with 11 of our closest and dearest family and friends (there were some that couldn't come due to being overseas and short notice) and it was great.
DH made me send an invite to mum and dad before the wedding to which mum replied with my last email to her (funnily enough without her response also on it) so I took that as a no which was the answer I knew I would get and have not spoken to them since. My bro also chose to take their side by not rsvp'ing or attending even though it had nothing to do with him. I have had to talk to him since though due to shares we jointly hold but only via email.
My IL's still think I should try to repair the relationship but they don't get that my family are just like that - all have NPD - and there is no way I want selfish, self-centered people like that in my life anymore. Life is so much less stress and more happiness that way.
mil threw a tantruma nd decided she wasnt coming (10mins before the ceremony) so everyone stood outside her door and begged her to come (i said 'Eff her, im going now whether shes there of not') so the ceremony started half an hour late.
(she also threw a tantrum the SHE didnt get the honeymoon suite, on OUR wedding night-we stayed at the venue the night before and the night after)
I was sc**wed over by my DJ who was also a friend of my family. He didnt answer any of my calls or turn up to the rehersal which was held 2 days before the wedding. We ended up getting another DJ at the last minute.
Also at the reception one of our groomsmen (DH's Cousin) had way too much to drink and decided he was going to try and start fights with people in my family. My Aunty and Uncle left early due to him and then he decided to start on my sister and BIL, he threw a chair at my sister who was 6 months pregnant at the time. He was then kicked out of the reception but snuck back in, when i saw him coming back in the room heading for my sister and BIL again i took to him and ended up being dragged off him by my uncle and security guard. He was then escorted out by police, breaking things on his was out which my in-laws ended up paying for. Needless to say i have not spoken to him since!
Gosh some of these stories are shocking
I was lucky our wedding was smooth sailing.. Well for me!! Lol
The one and only thing that did happen was.. DH and my brother were supposed to take my Nan to the wedding but she wouldn't get dressed!!!
DH ended up being LATE because he had to park miles away because everyone else had taken all the spots. Haha.
I was late too so it didn't matter.
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