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    Unhappy Do you feel like you've let yourself go since becoming a wife & mum?

    Do you still shave/wax your legs as soon as they start getting hairy?

    Do you make yourself look good every time you leave the house?

    Do you wear perfume?

    Do you have your hair done and make an effort with your appearance?

    Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror?

    Or, are you like me???

    Feel fat & frumpy, rarely feel like being intimate with my poor DH (who I adore, but who has the time & energy), often put off shaving until I can't bear it anymore, am constantly tired, don't do myself up as much as I should . Sometimes I think 'I have a hubby who loves me and 2 amazing kids who adore me so why do I need to bother' but I ALWAYS feel better when I put on a bit of make up (mascara & lipgloss work a treat), a spray of perfume, and straighten my hair.

    What about you?

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    Nope.
    I do my make up 99% of the time, and my hair too. I shave when I need it. I exercise and I eat healthy. Probably more so now than before children. I value my mental and physical health too much.

    I don't care what others do or don't do, but I feel better having spent the time on myself, so I do it for me. DF loves me no matter what, but I know if I love myself then I can accept his love more than I would if I didn't love myself.

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    I can only speak as someone in a ling term relationship, as my first bubba is still a few months away, but I do still make an effort...for me.

    I shave my legs every other day, I don't leave the house without makeup on (even if it's just a bit of concealer, gloss and mascara) and I try to dress nicely when we go out. I do that for me though, because it makes me feel better about myself.

    I find shaving and putting makeup on to be relaxing.

    This might all change once our little girl arrives though

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    Do you still shave/wax your legs as soon as they start getting hairy? Once or twice a week.

    Do you make yourself look good every time you leave the house? I put a bra and pants on

    Do you wear perfume? Nope, just Bo spray.

    Do you have your hair done and make an effort with your appearance? I put my hair in the classic mummy bun..

    Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror? Mostly

    Or, are you like me??? Hmm I'm pretty comfortable in my own skin, I don't feel the need to wear make up although sometimes I wouldn't mind wearing a little. I do wish I could find more nice breastfeeding tops, not the ones that only accommodate up to a E (if that) cup size. I would like the time and skills to do something with my hair but it's curly so all I really have to do is wack some mousse in it but I usually cbf and it only gets in the way and I end up putting it up anyway.

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    Probably no so much since becoming pregnant, i cant wear creams or makeup as my skin gets rashy, its too awkward to shave and last time i tried i cut myself.. A few more weeks and ill probably be too busy with a baby to care

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    Do you still shave/wax your legs as soon as they start getting hairy? Nope. But I never have. Mine are blonde and I hate shaving, so I usually wait until they annoy me to do it!!

    Do you make yourself look good every time you leave the house?
    If we are going out to dinner or something, then yes I put in the effort. Otherwise I make sure I look presentable, but I don't put a face on to go shopping, mums group etc.

    Do you wear perfume?
    No. I used to wear it every day, but then I met DH who always complains when I do, so I stopped.

    Do you have your hair done and make an effort with your appearance?
    My hair is way overdue for a cut, so is in a bun at home and a messy lower bun when we go out a that looks better! And I don't wear make up every day either. DH prefers me without, I prefer with, but I only put a light coat on for special occasions now.

    Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror?
    Mostly. I need to loose some weight, but have have lost and gained the same 3kgs with this pregnancy, so I am happy with that. I'm only 1kg heavier than when we fell, so am pretty proud of myself really.

    I look after my skin, so think I look younger than I am as don't have that many wrinkles and always use sunscreen, so I think that helps too.

    As for intimacy, this pregnancy has killed my libido. I hope it come back once she is born!!

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    Well I was a wife for 6 years and honestly after I had my bub I was much the same as you.... Now I'm a single mummy with another bub and things are a little different ...


    Do you still shave/wax your legs as soon as they start getting hairy? Yep pretty much - plus I get a 3 weekly wax downstairs - sorry if TMI

    Do you make yourself look good every time you leave the house?
    Yes I do ... In fact I barely even get the mail without having myself ready for the day.


    Do you wear perfume?
    Yep daily

    Do you have your hair done and make an effort with your appearance? I get my hair cut and coloured every 6 weeks and I try to keep it straightened and presentable every day ... If I haven't had a chance to straighten it I'll normally whack it into some kind of upstyle. A few years ago after my first I was strictly a pony tail girl - lucky if if had a brush dragged through

    Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror?
    Kind of - ... Never totally happy but not from lack of effort - more from my messed up self esteem.

    Or, are you like me???
    I used to feel that way ... But now I've lost 25kg and feel pretty energetic... Don't worry about it though - motherhood is full on and if I didn't have to share my kids with the ex and have do much free time if be exactly the same

    Feel fat & frumpy, rarely feel like being intimate with my poor DH (who I adore, but who has the time & energy), often put off shaving until I can't bear it anymore, am constantly tired, don't do myself up as much as I should . Sometimes I think 'I have a hubby who loves me and 2 amazing kids who adore me so why do I need to bother' but I ALWAYS feel better when I put on a bit of make up (mascara & lipgloss work a treat), a spray of perfume, and straighten my hair.

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    Heh, physically I'm in FAR better shape than when I fell pregnant. I'm in the healthy weight range for my BMI when before I was in the obese range. I wear a uniform every day with strict hair and make up rules. I just don't bother with make up because everyone I've worked with has seen me without it, dog tired and looking like poo anyway. What would the point be, they've all seen me at my worst and that's not my day to day look! Hahahaha.

    So as to dressing up, nope not really but that's more because I don't have a choice. I have to wear the same thing day in day out regardless.
    But the main thing for me is that my body is 100% better than it was before I got married and had my little monster, and it's mostly thanks to him and the desire to be around for a long time. I'm the only one that I know out of all my parental friends who've actually LOST a heap of weight since they got married and had children

    ETA - I do wear perfume daily, as it's the one thing that there's no rules on with my clothing at work! *chuckle*.

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    I don't feel I've 'let myself go'

    I don't often wear make up, do my hair, shave my legs, or go to much trouble with my clothes - often. But I'm pretty comfy in my own skin I think.

    Though if ive had a crap night and stuff I'll put on make up & dress 'nicely' to compensate. Gives me a little pick me up.
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    I shave my legs every 2-3 days only cause i wear shorts to work otherwise i wouldnt care.

    Havent worn makeup in years

    Usually wear body spray but got some SJP perfume for my birthday so have been using that lately.

    I get dressed before leaving the house = i havent had a haircut or colour in over 12 months - do i care not really

    If i had my way at the moment i would spend every day in my pjs on the lounge but having 3 kids i dont get much chance of that. and with work...

    In the mirror i see an overweight 30 year old that hasnt got that sparkle in her eye anymore. Although i have lost 40kg i still see the old me. Still have another 30 to go


 

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