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    Quote Originally Posted by TheCatsMeow View Post
    My DD was only 18 months old when my DS was born, so no, I wasn't exactly the perfect mum! The first 4-5 months were HARD and my DD missed out on a lot of my attention, especially in the early days. Thankfully I lived with my in laws and we had the whole "village support" thing going on, so she had her Dad, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncle and Cousins making up for it. Now that DS is 7 months old, I feel like I'm getting back to becoming a good parent. I have plenty of time to do one on one with DD when DS sleeps, we can do activities together, and DS is starting to play with my DD which is really cute and means I can get some stuff done around the house too.

    It's been such a learning curve and a massive test for me though. I definitely wont be going for a third, that's for sure!!!
    Just looking at your signature - our kids are pretty much the same age. My DD1 was born on the 28/12/09 and my DD2 was born 11/7/11!

    To the OP - I do feel a little stretched to be honest. I had a dream baby in DD1, but DD2 is a difficult sleeper. Having said that though, every day gets easier. I force myself to be organised to try to make the house run smoother, so I can give both kids my attention. That means cooking food at nighttime, doing a chore a day during the nap they have at the same time etc.

    DD2 does get dragged to different activities but it wont be long before she is partipating herself.

    I just couldn't imagine only having one child, so for me, the gamble paid off even though there are days where I just want to sob in bed

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    I have 4 n 1/2 year gap n i had the exact same fears my DS5 has ADHD & ODD so he was my centre of the universe but I heavily involved him in pregnancy tool him-to every appointment n scan he got to hear heart beat reminded me to take my baby tablets (multis) he picked DDs Name wasn't at all jealous very helpful they love each other they're almost inseparable
    recently she's started walking he only now gets frustrated with her n yes u can still have that time with just the first once baby is asleep or other patent deals to baby
    I'm recently single n finding it a big of a juggling act but I can only try my best

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    Thank u for all your replies.. Its wonderful to hear from people who dont have the 1 or 2 year age gap too! I feel alot better.. I guess the key is to be organised! I have a year to get in as much one on one with ds

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    We have two boys and my DH does fifo 7/7 roster.

    There is a 18 month age gap between them.

    My first son is a perfect angle who set me up for an epic reality check when my second son came along.

    My second son is very spirited and full on. He doesn't stop until he is asleep and he is trying to get out of his day sleep. Like he*l - Go to sleep.

    DS1 has a speech delay and is kinda shy but that is his personality and DS2 has a loud "here I am, i want to entertain you personality".

    I do try to find one on one time with both of them. My DS1 is in prep now so it is only when my DS2 is asleep. Plus on school holidays that will be our special time whilst DS2 is in kindy.

    My DS2 i do a special activity with him once a week and try to spend as much time reading and counting while DS1 is at school.

    I hope it all works out.

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    Thread crashing here I think, but has anyone had two kids under one? Ie an eleven month age gap? Thoughts?

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    There is 22mths between my two sons. They are presently 33mths and 11mths. DS1 DID change alot when DS2 came along. From the moment he walked into the room at the hospital. After four weeks I remember saying to my husband 'where has my little boy gone?' to which he replied that his behaviour will settle down but he will never be the same again because the family dynamics had changed. DH was right. (DS1 went from loving DS2, to send him back and them after four months he settled begrudgingly.)
    I have less time with DS1 and I try make the most of what time we have one on one. He can be attention seeking if too little time is spent at which time he can be very naughty.
    They do love each other though and play together alot, but not without the fights between them over toys!

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    I have a perfect 2 year old DS too, we get to do so much together that I feel like having a second will really upset our little lifestyle - its such a big decision!

    If we decide to have a second child, there will be a 3-4 year age gap. I think its perfect, because you still that one-on-one time with your second baby that you had with the first. Who really wants two young children in nappies anyway?! Not me!

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