My DD was only 18 months old when my DS was born, so no, I wasn't exactly the perfect mum! The first 4-5 months were HARD and my DD missed out on a lot of my attention, especially in the early days. Thankfully I lived with my in laws and we had the whole "village support" thing going on, so she had her Dad, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncle and Cousins making up for it. Now that DS is 7 months old, I feel like I'm getting back to becoming a good parent. I have plenty of time to do one on one with DD when DS sleeps, we can do activities together, and DS is starting to play with my DD which is really cute and means I can get some stuff done around the house too.
It's been such a learning curve and a massive test for me though. I definitely wont be going for a third, that's for sure!!!