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    Lmao I must be infuriating to that sort of mum. "Oh my child was doing that ages ago".

    Oh. Kay. Anyway, how 'bout that local sports team... *chuckle*.

    Also, old thread is old.

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    We are talking about two different types of mothers, those who are genuinely excited that their kids are doing things, and those that are competitive. I have known a competitive mother who used to go on and on and on and on about the most crazy things, and she was the type, if anyone said "my baby does/did this". "oh, my baby does it too ( but always better/bigger) etc. It was such a head wreck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    We are talking about two different types of mothers, those who are genuinely excited that their kids are doing things, and those that are competitive. I have known a competitive mother who used to go on and on and on and on about the most crazy things, and she was the type, if anyone said "my baby does/did this". "oh, my baby does it too ( but always better/bigger) etc. It was such a head wreck.
    I think the problem is often people get accused of being competative because of others insecurities etc.

    I have come across the real competitive ones but I look at it a different way, that they must have a lot of insecurities to feel the need to be like that etc, and I try not to let it bother me.

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    I don't know, I just don't understand why normal, healthy and developing well is not enough for some people anymore. Like with the woman I mentioned, her child was text book, talking when he was supposed to, walking, reaching his milestones. His behaviour was out of control though, to the point where his childcare suggested she send him to a child behavioural therapist. But she wouldn't believe it. She said it was because he was a child genius and was misunderstood. She had never taken him to see anyone, she just knew that he was a genius.

    I have no issues at all with anyone shouting the praises of all their children's merits, kindness, happiness whatever. But when it becomes an obvious competitive thing then I am out. I hate to think of the pressure these parents are inadvertently putting onto their kids.

    Not to mention, I think all kids are special, even when they aren't child geniuses everyone has something they are good at and it is just a matter of finding it!

    Quote Originally Posted by peanutmonkey View Post
    I think the problem is often people get accused of being competative because of others insecurities etc.

    I have come across the real competitive ones but I look at it a different way, that they must have a lot of insecurities to feel the need to be like that etc, and I try not to let it bother me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    I don't know, I just don't understand why normal, healthy and developing well is not enough for some people anymore. Like with the woman I mentioned, her child was text book, talking when he was supposed to, walking, reaching his milestones. His behaviour was out of control though, to the point where his childcare suggested she send him to a child behavioural therapist. But she wouldn't believe it. She said it was because he was a child genius and was misunderstood. She had never taken him to see anyone, she just knew that he was a genius.

    I have no issues at all with anyone shouting the praises of all their children's merits, kindness, happiness whatever. But when it becomes an obvious competitive thing then I am out. I hate to think of the pressure these parents are inadvertently putting onto their kids.

    Not to mention, I think all kids are special, even when they aren't child geniuses everyone has something they are good at and it is just a matter of finding it!
    Oh I do agree with you, I just try to think of why the mother may be acting that way instead of just getting frustrated with her etc.

    I just find, as a mum of an early mover, that no matter how carefully I worded things, anytime I mention how old my DS1 was when he started crawling/walking etc I get treated like im bragging when im not. I feel like I cant be involved in conversations about it because it makes the parents of kids who did things later feel bad for some reason.

    Meanwhile, DS2 didnt walk until 11 months and boy was it easier lol.

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    I think people can be too sensitive nowdays and that makes another's actions seem more malicious than what they actually are.

    If a mum at my mothers group passed around a video of bub rolling or crawling for the first time we'd all be happy for her and say how cute bub was. We would be happy for a bub getting his first tooth even if bub was the last of the group to get a tooth.

    If a mum brags about her child reaching a milestone try saying congratulations instead of reaching for the Kleenex.
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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I think people can be too sensitive nowdays and that makes another's actions seem more malicious than what they actually are.

    If a mum at my mothers group passed around a video of bub rolling or crawling for the first time we'd all be happy for her and say how cute bub was. We would be happy for a bub getting his first tooth even if bub was the last of the group to get a tooth.

    If a mum brags about her child reaching a milestone try saying congratulations instead of reaching for the Kleenex.
    *faints*

    I agree with you again... it feels so strange

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    I think we need to remember that these mums are just proud of what there child is doing, it's a big deal to them it's not like the are saying my child is better than yours cause it does x y and z they are just happy for what there child is doing

    I know with my dd she does every thing last and I still like hearing spout every thing my friends neuro typical kids are doing and I know full well they are not saying it to rub it in or compare they are just happy and that is great i am happy for them too.

    My best friend from mothers group her little one same age as mine he reads at a fourth grade level and he is year two ad se told me and I was so so happy for her the fact m daughter isn't reading yet has no baring on what her son has archived, being the one with the later developing child it's not all about what your child is not doing they can also be happy for what there cold is doing. Parenting will be a a lonely time of you think every thing is a dig about what your child isn't doing

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I think people can be too sensitive nowdays and that makes another's actions seem more malicious than what they actually are.

    If a mum at my mothers group passed around a video of bub rolling or crawling for the first time we'd all be happy for her and say how cute bub was. We would be happy for a bub getting his first tooth even if bub was the last of the group to get a tooth.

    If a mum brags about her child reaching a milestone try saying congratulations instead of reaching for the Kleenex.
    Yerp

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