This thread scares the bejeebers out of me. DD starts daycare in a few weeks, she'll be 7mo. I have to go back to work so as lovely as it would be to stay home, it's just not really an option at the moment. I don't consider myself a bad parent for using dc nor do I think the carers are raising my child for me.
I agree with a few comments above, there are lots of good quality centres with fabulous dedicated staff.
The centre I'm sending DD to encourages parents to spend time there, they have an open door policy and went to great lengths to assure me dd's home routine will be followed. When I rocked up unannounced to inspect it they were more than happy to take me through and the bubs all looked content. The staff were all on the floor actively interacting with the bubs or holding the little ones etc.
But I guarantee you I'll be watching them like a hawk for a while with plenty of drop-ins until I'm 100% comfortable with it all!