I just got off the phone to Heidi's teacher and I don't feel like I am in the wrong but I wonder if I am....so here's the full story....Last week Ivy (my oldest) told Heidi (a year younger) who she had a crush on and to keep it a secret. Heidi told 2 of her friends who then told a few other people (well you know how it goes) anyway they all started teasing Ivy about it so Ivy told her teacher who then went and told Heidi's teacher because it was the children in her class doing the teasing. So the teacher dealt with it....by banning Heidi from having anything to do with her sister at school and from going anywhere near where Ivy is. Now Heidi and all of her friends play basketball at lunch, Ivy and her friends sit under a shady tree by the basketball courts and talk. So all week Heidi has been unable to play basketball and because that's what all of her friends do Heidi has been sitting on her own at break times coloring in. Yesterday I went and spoke to Heidi's teacher (who btw is a complete *****!) and told her that the issue was dealt with at home and while I understand that the school also needs to deal with it I don't understand why Heidi was the only one punished especially since she didn't do any teasing and I also feel that the punishment given has created a bigger issue being that Heidi now has to spend break times on her own and she already has enough trouble making friends and has confidence issues. So the teacher said she understood and would talk to the children and Heidi would no longer be banned....So yesterday she went into Ivy's class and yelled at her infront of the whole class, told Ivy she is to have NOTHING to do with her sister and Ivy is banned from the basketball courts and the oval as that is right next to the basketball courts. Now firstly Ivy didn't do anything wrong, secondly Ivy is now no longer able to spend break time with her friends because the oval is where the older children have to spend their break times and Ivy is not allowed on the oval or near the basketball courts, thirdly no one can ban my children from having anything to do with each other as they are sisters and finally how dare she yell at my daughter the way she did (and it was not only Ivy who told me about it other children in her class also told me.) SO anyway I told Ivy that this teacher can't make her have nothing to do with her sister and that she has my permission to go onto the oval and near the basketball courts with her friends and that if she gets told off to get the teacher or principal to call me. So Heidi's teacher calls me and I explain the points I listed above exactly how I have listed them, I also tell her how my daughter who has always loved school and looked forward to going to school each day came home crying yesterday saying she NEVER wanted to go to school again and I warned her that if she EVER talks to one of my children like that again I will be reporting her to the department of education. Was I wrong?