My ds has difficulty staying still, following instructions and gets easily distracted. He hasn't been put in any box yet so for the moment he is just different. He wanted to do soccer at school and we agreed and today I watched the man sit him out for 20min at a time (he's 5) while he taught the other kids the skills. When he tried the join back in again after the 20mins the man just pointed for him to go back and sit down. I spoke to the man at the end and he was offended when I suggested that ds' behaviour escalates when you sit him out and if he was able to give him a job to do it would be really helpful even if it was sorting the balls or something like that. He said that I should come next week so that I can look after him so he can concentrate on the rest of the kids.
So my question is this. Do parents of children with special needs find it difficult to involve their kids in activities? Because my experiences so far have been that people are frustrated and would rather get rid of kids that are not the 'norm'.