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    Default Is this rude or am I just overreacting?

    just went to the hospital to see a friend who just gave birth. A mutual friend (who I have already tried to distance myself from a little) was there.

    The other friend had her 3 kids there and i had my ds. I biught my ds some chips to tie him over and told him to share with the other kids, which he did. Anyways The discussion between the 3 of us turned to private v public, the cuts to the Medicare levy etc. My friend with the newborn (I'll call her d) and I agreed on one point of view. The other girl disagreed.

    The other girl (let's call her a) said something and I admit, I accidentally interrupted her. However she said in a very abrupt way "would you just let me finish" to me, and proceeded to tell us how she was right. For the rest of the time I was there she did not speak to me except to comment and refute anything I said.
    Not that I expected her to say thanks for the chips for her kids, but I find the fact that she could shut me up with no thought whilst I gave her kids snacks a bit of a joke. I don't care that the kids ate but I just think when someone is being a bit polite to your kids then maybe just put up with your bad habits especially when you don't see each other often.

    This girl has no problem b1tching about me or anyone else as she sees fit.

    I already don't invite her to parties because she is extremely stingy(will re gift at any chance) and she is extremely self righteous. She now even tells my best friends that she is angry that I don't invite her anymore!

    So, should her attitude today be the last straw or am I being a bit too precious?

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    I have no time for people like that, and I don't blame you at all for distancing yourself from her.

    It sounds like she is self centred and fights to be right all the time.

    I guess all you can do is be civil to her (which you are) if you are ever in a similar situation, and don't invite her to events. You have every right to not invite her, and it shows more about her character than yours if she then chooses to b!tch about you behind your back.

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    It sounds like you two have a mutual dislike of each other, so it's probably best you keep it distant and civil like you are doing now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander Beetle View Post
    It sounds like you two have a mutual dislike of each other, so it's probably best you keep it distant and civil like you are doing now.
    ^^ this.
    and i wouldn't waste my energy worrying about it

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    I have to agree with PP. Might be time to steer clear of each other for a while. Just make sure you don't talk to your mutual friend about "rude girl" so that she can honestly say to the "rude girl" that she doesn't know what you are thinking because you haven't spoken about her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander Beetle View Post
    It sounds like you two have a mutual dislike of each other, so it's probably best you keep it distant and civil like you are doing now.

    See I don't think she dislikes me, that's just her character in that she thinks it's ok to speak to anyone like that.

    She has a few times in the past month tried to catch up but I keep saying that I am too busy.

    I know I can get my knickers in a knot quite easily and that's my flaw, and i am trying to be more tolerant but as long as Ive known her she just thinks she's king sH1t and I'm just over it.

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    I think she was abrupt but that alone wouldn't have upset me. I think it bothers you so much because you already dislike her and so every little thing is magnified.

    Just avoid, avoid, avoid as much as possible.

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    I just think life is too short for that kind of bull$h!t and for maintaining friendships with people you don't really like. I can't stand people who are rude like that. Really, it's not hard to try and be civilized and polite to others.

    I would avoid her at all costs.

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    You just clash... It happens. Does it really matter to you?You know, I just ignore rudeness or thoughtlessness in people because at some point even the closest people to me are rude or thoughtless at times - its usually about them, not me so I let it go and ignore them or avoid them for a while.... Sometimes no words is more powerful than words.
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    Life is too short to deal with those sort of people more than is necessary.

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