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    Mine will be 3 in a couple of months and last night was the last time they had one! I cut the teats off them to show they were broken and got them to put them into the bin themselves. They gave them up on their own at 1 but i reintroduced them last year when they started getting night terrors. So far so good

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    DD only ever had her dummy of a nap time. Then when we moved house about 6 months ago she just got massively obsessed with her dummy. Now it's WW3 to get it off her EVER!! I don't know what to do. I feel like she is never going to get rid of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by waterlily View Post
    DD only ever had her dummy of a nap time. Then when we moved house about 6 months ago she just got massively obsessed with her dummy. Now it's WW3 to get it off her EVER!! I don't know what to do. I feel like she is never going to get rid of it.
    How old is she? Before I did what I did last night (cut teats off and showed them they were broken so they put them in the bin) I told them they were big girls now and that when they Easter Bunny comes they should give him the dummies to give to little babies and they can enjoy their choccie instead. Didn't need to come to that though. Since last night there has been no tantrums and and they haven't even asked for it

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    2 years 3 months here. I told she could send her dummy by fairy mail and the fairies would send her something back. She put them all in a special 'fairy mail' bag and then when she woke up in the morning she found a wand and fairy doll. She has asked a few times for it back but no tears

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    Quote Originally Posted by mum2b09 View Post
    How old is she? Before I did what I did last night (cut teats off and showed them they were broken so they put them in the bin) I told them they were big girls now and that when they Easter Bunny comes they should give him the dummies to give to little babies and they can enjoy their choccie instead. Didn't need to come to that though. Since last night there has been no tantrums and and they haven't even asked for it
    2.5 years. I've been asking her if she wants to give it to Santa- No, The fairies? (we went to a fairy village thing)No, the Monkeys- No. I even tried the present idea and she chose her dummies over that idea!! Lol. It's strange because she has never clung to anything before. She has always been an independent little miss. It's so out of character for her to need it IYKWIM?

    After Christmas I told her she was only having a dummy for nap times (gave her weeks of warnings) but she seriously went into melt down mode, it was honestly like she could not function without it, so I gave it back. (she did end up getting very sick a couple of days later so I'm sure she was unwell at the time but still.. )

    We have always had a no dummies outside of the house rule which works great and we did have a dummy only for bed rule but with packing and moving I gave in just to get peace

    So really it's my fault.

    I will add though it has only been the last 6 months (since we moved house) that she has been like this. She sometimes went to sleep without it before and NEVER has it during the day.
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    I was a TERRIBLE mum and I deserve a "bad mothering" award over the issue!

    DS was a firm dummy user and a really bad sleeper. The dummy was essential to my sanity. I told myself I would get rid of it by the time he was 2, but DD was born when he was 2yrs 3 months old. I was reluctant to get rid of DS's dummy with a new baby coming, and then I didn't want to fight with him that the baby could have a dummy but he couldn't.

    So in the end they both gave up their dummies this Xmas just passed. At age 4 years & 2 years <hangs her head in shame>

    I coached them for 3 weeks before Xmas that Father Christmas would only leave them a present if they gave him their dummy. A week before Xmas we genuinely lost DD's dummy one night. I sent her to bed anyway and told her that Father Christmas must've come and got it early. She never even whimpered for it - no tears, no lost sleep, nothing! And she quite proudly told all that Father Christmas took her dummy! <If I had only know it was that easy!>

    DS was much harder! He refused to give it to FC - so FC stole it from him Xmas Eve. When he woke up he told us FC had taken it! He cried for 20 minutes at bed time the next two nights, but then that was it!

    After hearing horror stories, it was rather simple in the end!

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    See RK I think like your DS I left it too late, if I'd have taken it 6-10 months ago I don't think she would have cared. Now I feel like she is going to get more and more attached.

    P.s you are not a bad mum you goose!!

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    I think it is much easier if your child is old enough to have a conversation about it and understands what is about to happen, and if they can be involved in the removal process.

    DD was about 20months.
    She has an obssesion with watching the garbage truck collect our bins. I told her one garbage day that she was a 'big girl' now and didn't need a dummy anymore. She collected all her dummies and put them in the bin and then helped me put our bin on the roadside. She excitedly watched the bin being emptied and then told anyone that would listen that the garbage men had her dummies.

    That night i was expecting tears or a drama at bed time but she happily talked about it again and went to sleep.

    I think i was more afraid to let go than her!!

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    With my ds he had reflux and would often cry in agony with the dummy the only thing that seemed to lessen his pain quickly (he was on med's til 15 months). So, we were in no rush to get rid of it. Then as he got older if he got upset or hurt putting in his dummy helped him relax almost instantly. It was amazing. It worked so much better than even a cuddle from Mummy or Daddy (although we would cuddle him anyway).

    He had it at bedtimes (and times of stress such as when hurt/etc) from about the age of 1. Otherwise the dummy was not needed.

    We got rid of the dummy at 3.5. The dummies he used were recalled due to a fault, so they just had to go. The good thing about stopping at age 3 was that we could negotiate & explain it to him. At 1, that's not really possible. My nephew was VERY attached to his dummy and he was closer to 4.5 when he gave up his (having a younger sister who still had one didn't help in his case).

    My M&CHN told us to give up the dummy at 3 months or 3 years and in between it will be hard. I think she's right.


 

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